I came out to my sisters....

[Anonymous]

I don't know what to do.... My two sisters are in total denial..... Let's call them JoJo and Caca. Jojo is the 2nd eldest and caca is the eldest....with 10 and 12 years apart , they're alot older then me. When I told them I was gay, they were in complete denial...my eldest sister Caca just stopped talking, and then Jojo started playing all the denial cards, like ' I was confused too at your age' or 'You just haven't met the right girls.' or ' You have too many girl-friends...you're starting to think like them.' I tried telling them that it's not a choice , and it doesn't really explain why I find Gerard Butler hot and she's like ' Why do you find Gerard Butler hot?' or ' What makes you think I'm gay?' I mean WHAT DO YOU WANT ME TO SAY? THAT I EJACULATE TO GAY PORN?

I'm so scared and I don't know what to do....I told them over whatsapp ( both of them are over seas) and JOJO comming back at the end of the month, she told me 'I'm coming back soon, and we'll have a long talk. Just know that we really do love you'. What am I going to do? What if she keeps trying to convince me that 'its just a phase'? I'm so fucking lost, and I feel so vulnerable. This is hell...why would anyone choose this life style?

P.s. I lied to most you guys...I did tell my mom already..in the 9th grade...of course she said the same things jojo said, and now she pretends that I'm just her straight son.

[Kenny221]

Well fuck, I just realized by saying that I find Gerard Butler hot was a total dead give away to who I am.

[Counselor]

Tell your sisters THEY haven't met the right girls. :biggrin:

[Nick9]

congrats on coming out! *hug*

I know how you feel. Something like that happened to me too, and I bet to many others. There is no need to have that "long talk" if you don't want to. Just tell her that you don't want to talk about it. You may add that you would think about what she suggested to make her leave you alone.
I don't think you can "make her understand." Either she is willing to think about it, or she is not. If she is, she can do some research and then ask questions or give you support. But you can hardly convince her if she has her mind already set.

Give her time. Don't feel bad and don't let her push you into a corner. If you don't feel like talking about it, simply don't.

[Nick9]

Tell your sisters THEY haven't met the right girls. :biggrin:

OMG, this is just absolutely PRICELESS!!!

[Wade]

I'm sorry you got that reaction. I've come to the conclusion that coming out is over rated, or at least being that worried about it is (as long as you're in a safe environment). You don't owe anyone a long talk or any explanation. If you're confident in who you are then you don't need to explain yourself. They're the ones who have the problem, not you. They'll catch up sooner or later. All you can do is live your life and show them through example that nothing about who you are as a person has changed. The work is one their part. It should be no concern of yours what they think.

[Wade]

Well fuck, I just realized by saying that I find Gerard Butler hot was a total dead give away to who I am.

This made me laugh so hard. Oddly adorable. Made me think of this:

[Kenny221]

This made me laugh so hard. Oddly adorable. Made me think of this:

LOOOL it's cuz all the people on here that knows me knows that I'm crazy about Gerard butler LOL

[Woollyhats]

That's so hurtful and cruel. Perhaps they don't understand, they ARE all trying to make you know that they love you, but it looks like you need some back up.

I'm going to suggest this as a resource for you. It's long, but it's extremely helpful, ask them to read it (and if they won't, memorize a whole bunch of it for that "long talk" your sisters plan on having).

http://www.fflag.org.uk/images/aguidefor...012pdf.pdf

I think that perhaps denial is a normal reaction, and you're going to have to push through it. The key thing, I think, is that they haven't reacted by disowning you or anything like that. That means they really are trying.

Good luck .

[OrphanPip]

My mother was that way for years, eventually they come around slowly and get used to it. As long as they don't cut you out of their lives then it is a good sign they'll adapt in time.