You ever like someone so much they make you just want to walk up to them and dance and sing. I have really fallen for this guy at work and hes been my first official real crush. Hes just so cute and nice and I pretty darn sure he is gay. The only problem is I'm actually pretty new to the whole dating thing because I'm just starting to get more comfortable in my own skin. Every time I see him my heart begins to pound and I sound like a complete idiot and I get really embarrassed and walk away really fast. I love having these feelings for him though he makes me happy and forget about all the negative things about life.
As of late though I have been thinking a lot about relationships and I have actually never been in one before I'm just to damn shy when I want to get involved with anyone. I feel very comfortable being romantic and loving and cuddly =D. The actual intense physical stuff scares me because I have no practice and I usually don't get turned on by porn of any form (Too Artificial for me). I just want to know whats the secret to having a good relationship with anyone. I know it varies from people to people but do I sound weird thinking like this?
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Regardless of how you feel......work romances are a very bad idea.
They can cause all sorts of problems.
Look but dont touch.
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Yeah I have thought about work romance but we don't work together. He works in a different department then me.
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and its only a part time job I won't be there for the rest of my life either.
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Good relationships are based on the three C's
1. Commitment
2. Communication
3. Compromise.
If you communicate with your partner (really talk, not text, or comment on the weather who who's outfit looks best) and seek to find a middle ground in as much of the stuff that comes up, then the commitment thing becomes a lot easier.
As for your case... You think he is gay.. Great. I think the moon is made out of blue-cheese.. just because I or you think a thing doesn't make it a fact.
In order to know if a person is gay they have to tell you - and many who are in the closet will lie through their teeth out of fear that if anyone finds out they will be hurt severely.
The reality most likely is that he is straight and you have an infatuation for a straight man. Its bound to happen, considering that around 98% of the population of males are straight to one degree or another.
Porn is artificial, made up. consider all of the times you see a BJ instantly turn into anal and the condom magically appears... What happened? The art of putting on a condom is not erotic (in most cases) so isn't included in most porn videos. Actors are acting - Really you are not going to meet two skinheads who drag you off to plug both ends at the same time - that rarely happens, and when it does its a crime in most cases.
So yeah, porn is pretty much artificial, made up to entertain and doesn't reflect on real sexual intercourse which is often sloppy/messy, with false starts, and rarely ends with a happy ending that goes on in slow mo....
Back to this fellow. Stop looking at him as a potential mate, instead look at him as a potential friend. Once you do that, ask yourself how you would make a friendship with a person. And that is pretty much what you would do to get to know him a bit better.
Later, down the road a piece, you can confide in him 'I'm gay.' and see what his response is.
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Thanks for the guidance once again lol. If I do find out he is straight or he is taken, I can completely respect that. I can't be selfish like that. He just makes me so happy It makes me really not care what other people think of me ya know?
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