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03-31-2008, 06:23 PM

Isn't it annoying when you fall for a guy that you know you don't stand a chance with.

I always try to keep myself from doing that, but sometimes I just can't help it. I was car-pooling with a guy from work, and we had some great conversations. He was easy to talk to and had interesting stories.
Well, I fell like humpty dumpty off a wall... but even though we will never be a couple, I am happy that he considers me a friend and wants to hang out after he gets back from a trip with his parents.

Anyway, he finished work last week, so now I have to drive alone and I feel a bit depressed about it. Damn these emotions, why must I be so human :tongue:

03-31-2008, 06:51 PM

Yeah,I know that feeling,I especially despise the fantasy of "what if".I don't know about you but most of time,I tend to be instantly fixated with someone.So after our first meeting,I learn to limit or "discipline" my feelings towards that person,clearly monitoring that the I only have platonic feelings.

04-01-2008, 06:28 AM

about the emotions thing... I dont think it ever gets easy...

Even after being with my partner for years I always had the awful thought the bliss was gonna end any day. You start to wonder if, after so many years, that the hours of laughter shared would one day fade...

Relationships, fresh or ancient, are a puzzle to be wrapped up in completely for max enjoyment.

04-01-2008, 03:09 PM

Yeah, I always just want to ask, "Are you sure you are straight?", but then I think that everything will turn into a bad porn or something, which isn't what I want.

Sigh, well it never really hurts to have the mentality: 'you never know'. That way you can at least have hope and I think holding onto hope is better than holding onto despair.

04-01-2008, 05:19 PM

XRIMO Wrote:Yeah, I always just want to ask, "Are you sure you are straight?", but then I think that everything will turn into a bad porn or something, which isn't what I want.

Sigh, well it never really hurts to have the mentality: 'you never know'. That way you can at least have hope and I think holding onto hope is better than holding onto despair.

Definitely... You can't ever know what someone might do or say. Sometimes they are bad memories, sometimes they're good ones. Hold on to the good ones. Forgive yourself for getting into the bad ones, learn and move on.

04-01-2008, 11:57 PM

This same thing happened to me at my college with an extremely hot guy, hes a few years older than me (3/4) and there were so many signs suggesting he was gay and there were a few intimit moments - spelling right? But anyway i got fed up a chasing him around like a dog so i gave up, he always looks at me in a sweet way but i just cant be bothered as im unsure, hes gotta at least be curious!!

04-02-2008, 05:18 AM

I think a lot of people have been in a similar sort of situation XRIMO...

Whilst you can always hold on to that hope that something could happen, you shouldn't let it stop you from finding a r'ship that is more definite.

04-02-2008, 12:29 PM

I've done that many a time. It's all part of the vicious circle my friend.
Just glad that I've found my perfect guy now so hopefully no more of that! Just have some faith and I'm sure that you will too Confused

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04-02-2008, 02:50 PM

Yeah, I know this isn't something that is unique to me. I figured you guys have all experienced something along these lines.
I have an extremely strong will and most times I don't allow myself to get too close to someone. But this was just one of those times where it happened without me thinking about it.
It doesn't help that everyone at work keeps saying that he and I got along really well.