What do you think of "its my life, stay out of it"?

[Wade]

Nah I know what you mean. I like listening to people's problems too. It's a sign that they trust you, you get a chance to be helpful and in some cases it gives you a well-needed perspective on things. I just feel bad for never "returning the favour" in a similar way and I just hope I can convey my trust and appreciation in other ways.

I think with some friendships it's perfectly okay for one person to be the shoulder and the other to be the cryer. Both parties fulfill a need and a reversal of roles probably wouldn't make anyone happy. If you're like me at all (I don't have a large bustling social life (introvert) but I have a few very long-term and intimate friendships), then your friends might know that you trust and appreciate them just by the fact that you choose to spend your time in their company.

But if you're not like me.... gifts are always nice.

[Genersis]

I don't know. I've never had friends or family where such is necessary.

I'm not one to put my nose into other peoples business unless it seems necessary or if I'm asked.