think my boyfriend is very controlling

[SeaDevil]

Yeah, he's no good, and even with therapy he wont change.

You have no way of knowing that. I do believe that it sounds like some kind of serious action needs to be taken, but MisterTinkles is making a blanket statement. I used to be a terrible person, and people thought I was hopeless for quite a while. Turns out as soon as I got a support system that stopped acting like it was hopeless, it wasn't.