southbiochem Wrote:mmm...this lightened my mood...a lot.
But being serious, how do you manage to not make it a big deal? How do you get past the fear?
I can't keep hiding this much longer...i'ts taking away my mental health...but I'm still to scared of how people are going to react.
Sometimes it is really hard for people to come out. I know for me I was so scared. First thing to do is make sure you are in a safe environment to do so. Like for me I knew that my parents may not approve burning knew that they would never hurt me. Make sure you are ready. You will find out who truly cares about you because those are the ones that will support you and stay by your side
southbiochem Wrote:mmm...this lightened my mood...a lot.
But being serious, how do you manage to not make it a big deal? How do you get past the fear?
I can't keep hiding this much longer...i'ts taking away my mental health...but I'm still to scared of how people are going to react.
The way it worked for me, I kept it inside for so long, tried even to make it go away. And realized I couldn't. Then I decided I would accept it but never tell anybody. I was very ashamed of it. I felt so much guilt for it. It just became to much for me to bear. The only way to keep my sanity was to come out.
I feared coming out to mom and dad. I decided I wouldn't until they asked me. I came out to my friends and coworkers. It felt good. Finally my mom asked me and i stayed true to my word and said that i was gay.
You just get to a point you can't stand hiding it any more. I never lost a friend over it.
That's true. There are some people who are comfortable being in the closet and then there are others who like to be proud and show it. Everyone is different. The most important thing to remember is do what makes you happy not what others want
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