08-14-2013, 07:59 PM
I've felt self-conscious about being perceived as a "loser" before too. I live with my dad and brother, and we all three get along extremely well— we're like good friends. If it were economically feasible I would obviously be living alone, but it's near impossible to attend university full-time, and also make an income that you can completely support yourself on. My dad understands that and has told me as long as I'm in college and/or improving my life, I'll always have a room.
I also had a bunch of medical problems and was hospitalized twice over cancer in the past year and a half, so with my medical bills and everything it makes the situation even more difficult. So, you know what? If someone judges you for that, fuck 'em. They don't know your life or your past or your circumstances. I'm not fortunate enough to have wealthy family who can pay my way through college and pay my rent and living costs, unlike some people I know. On the contrary, I struggle, but I think that's probably for the better, to be honest. Struggle leads to growth.
The economy sucks right now, so it's not unusual for families to stick together. In fact, in some countries it's normal. I have a friend from Laos and her whole family lives together— parents, kids, grandkids, grandparents— all under one roof. That's how their culture is. The families stay together and take care of each other into old age; it's like a generational, cyclical thing. I also had a friend from Russia whose family did the same thing. She was 30, had been a dental hygienist, but was attending school again, and lived in a big house with her entire family. You gotta do what you gotta do.
The only time I have objections to people living with family is if they are leeching off of them and/or too lazy to look for a job or have any motivation or ambition whatsoever. That's ridiculous. Otherwise, shit happens. Work is hard to come by, and college ain't cheap.
I may move into a rental house my dad owns that's closer to my university when I go to grad school in a year or so, so we'll see.
I also had a bunch of medical problems and was hospitalized twice over cancer in the past year and a half, so with my medical bills and everything it makes the situation even more difficult. So, you know what? If someone judges you for that, fuck 'em. They don't know your life or your past or your circumstances. I'm not fortunate enough to have wealthy family who can pay my way through college and pay my rent and living costs, unlike some people I know. On the contrary, I struggle, but I think that's probably for the better, to be honest. Struggle leads to growth.
The economy sucks right now, so it's not unusual for families to stick together. In fact, in some countries it's normal. I have a friend from Laos and her whole family lives together— parents, kids, grandkids, grandparents— all under one roof. That's how their culture is. The families stay together and take care of each other into old age; it's like a generational, cyclical thing. I also had a friend from Russia whose family did the same thing. She was 30, had been a dental hygienist, but was attending school again, and lived in a big house with her entire family. You gotta do what you gotta do.
The only time I have objections to people living with family is if they are leeching off of them and/or too lazy to look for a job or have any motivation or ambition whatsoever. That's ridiculous. Otherwise, shit happens. Work is hard to come by, and college ain't cheap.
I may move into a rental house my dad owns that's closer to my university when I go to grad school in a year or so, so we'll see.
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