Need to know if new coworker is gay and interested in me

[johnrua]

I just started a new job this week and immediately met a guy who I think is very cute. I am not in the closet, but I am also not clearly gay. The guy and I started chatting over the work IM service and do so pretty often throughout each day with both work topics and also goofing around. We work together on projects whenever an opportunity arises, and we take our coffee breaks together too. He is a naturally nice guy, but I do think he likes to talk to me at least a little more than other people in the office. I've also heard him say to other workers that he's glad that I joined the company because I'm american and he spent a number of his childhood years in the US and he like to have american friends (our office is in sweden).

Yesterday he went around the office and single handedly invited a bunch of people to hang out after work. About 12 of us went to a park and had some drinks, and he spent the majority of the time near me talking in a group. He also touched my shoulders a few times while standing-up and sitting down. He invited myself and 2 girls to stay over at his apartment since he lived in the area and we all lived in a different city, but we ended up going to our respective homes. He didn't seem to be interested in the two girls, they both have boyfriends and it seemed like he was just trying to be nice and include everyone. I really like him and would like to continue and see where this goes, but I don't want to make a fool of myself if he isn't gay and is just being nice. I'm thinking about telling him casually that I'm gay and see what his response is? Any thoughts as to if he's interested in me and how I should proceed?

[pellaz]

im not in favor of dating someone form work

find out who is the office rumor monger and tell him her your gay. Let everyone know your gay. straights generally assume the only reason you like them if your gay is to get into their pants. See if your friends attitude changes if he knows

dont think its people's need to know if I am gay than again I dont keep secrets. Leads to rumors and junk

[JimmyDalton]

Can you blackmail him using random phone number? Just text him that you are a guy who want to be friend with him. In my country, a straight man will not accept a friendship offer from a random guy through texting.

[Spellbound]

Seriously: never screw the payroll.

Non-seriously: grab his junk.

Good luck which ever route you choose.

[MisterTinkles]

WHY put up a post, then delete your account?

Sounds "fishy" to me.