10-14-2013, 02:59 AM
I've got a little story to tell and I need advice about where to proceed. It involves two guys, and the incidents are not directly related.
First off, in July I dated a guy. The backstory to this is we met on a dating site earlier this year and found out we had the same Art History class. Everything seemed like it would go well, and we went out on a movie date in July. Roughly a day later he started dropping terms of endearment left and right and I wasn't prepared for it - especially when he sexted an MMS of his penis to me - and made the entire idea of dating him extremely awkward. I view him as a friend, not as someone I'd start a relationship with (not that I'm totally closed to the idea, but since that date and the stuff following it, it's even harder to see the idea). He's now asking me for a second chance...but I'll come back to that.
Secondly, just this past weekend, I went on a date with a guy who I met on another dating site, and we'd been talking for two weeks. I turned off the aspect of seeing this guy under any sort of rose-colored glasses - i.e. I went to lunch with him without looking at him with the idea of a relationship, but as just dating to see if a relationship was possible. Needless to say from my perspective, nothing much came out of this date, maybe I'm to blame for it - but we had a decent conversation about things. I kindly asked him to pay for my meal because I was out of cash (and it doesn't help that I'm unemployed for the time being). He didn't eat anything because he wasn't hungry (which irked me a little in my mind) and sat there watching me eat. Once we left the restaurant he told me he had to get to work in thirty minutes and simply said bye and that was it. He hasn't been much for words in texting, which is in extreme contrast to before the date.
Now, getting back to the other guy who's asking for a second chance - we started talking on facebook last night and he could tell I wasn't in the best mood - and I just came out with it. I told him about how this date went and he admitted to still having feelings for me.
I'm not exactly complaining that he still likes me, but generally I reserve terms of endearment for when I'm actually in a relationship, not after the first date. I also don't sext unless I'm in a relationship - which I haven't been in about a year.
I feel like I'm ready to date, but I'm not sure if I want to be in a relationship. Is that weird?
First off, in July I dated a guy. The backstory to this is we met on a dating site earlier this year and found out we had the same Art History class. Everything seemed like it would go well, and we went out on a movie date in July. Roughly a day later he started dropping terms of endearment left and right and I wasn't prepared for it - especially when he sexted an MMS of his penis to me - and made the entire idea of dating him extremely awkward. I view him as a friend, not as someone I'd start a relationship with (not that I'm totally closed to the idea, but since that date and the stuff following it, it's even harder to see the idea). He's now asking me for a second chance...but I'll come back to that.
Secondly, just this past weekend, I went on a date with a guy who I met on another dating site, and we'd been talking for two weeks. I turned off the aspect of seeing this guy under any sort of rose-colored glasses - i.e. I went to lunch with him without looking at him with the idea of a relationship, but as just dating to see if a relationship was possible. Needless to say from my perspective, nothing much came out of this date, maybe I'm to blame for it - but we had a decent conversation about things. I kindly asked him to pay for my meal because I was out of cash (and it doesn't help that I'm unemployed for the time being). He didn't eat anything because he wasn't hungry (which irked me a little in my mind) and sat there watching me eat. Once we left the restaurant he told me he had to get to work in thirty minutes and simply said bye and that was it. He hasn't been much for words in texting, which is in extreme contrast to before the date.
Now, getting back to the other guy who's asking for a second chance - we started talking on facebook last night and he could tell I wasn't in the best mood - and I just came out with it. I told him about how this date went and he admitted to still having feelings for me.
I'm not exactly complaining that he still likes me, but generally I reserve terms of endearment for when I'm actually in a relationship, not after the first date. I also don't sext unless I'm in a relationship - which I haven't been in about a year.
I feel like I'm ready to date, but I'm not sure if I want to be in a relationship. Is that weird?