Cumming While Getting Fucked

[Shorny]

1st happened few years ago but happening every time my partner fucks me.

At 1st I thought it was nice that he made me cum by fucking me but now it's getting to the point where I'm cumming before him and once I've cum I don't want him still up there if you know what I mean

Does anyone else have this problem or can anyone offer me any advice?

[Bowyn Aerrow]

Refractory period can be a b****h....

There are Tantric Exercises one can do to extend one's duration. I have no idea how well those will work with this particular issue.

Perhaps you can offset your early arrival to the destination by applying a bit more oral to him prior to his doing anal? Get him closer to his destination thus he arrives near or around the same time?

For myself I know that the only way I can arrive is missionary style (me on my back, them on top) Doggy style the angle of attack of the penis isn't rubbing as hard on the prostate.

There are numbing creams/lube - but I assume that they would numb him as well unless he is wearing a condom.

My first partner did 'exercises' with me. He would 'lounge' on the couch - not actually laying down, not really sitting, feet on the floor, head on the back of the couch. He would have me sit on him, lean back against him and 'relax' and then he would tease me and torture me as I sat on him. Its called Orgasm Denial.

He managed to get me to require more of a journey before arriving at the destination - if you know what I mean.

If your prostate is too sensitive, there may be an underlying medical condition. Prostate infections of the low order sort can lead to hyper-sensitivity that can lead to early ejaculation. Those usually progress to pain and discomfort during sex, but initially they can be quite 'pleasant'.


Most partners have a timing issue - one arrives earlier than the other, it takes a while to learn how your partner is feeling at any given moment. Thus the best thing may actually be to communicate and learn how each other is actually feeling each step of the process and to adjust the activity to suit.

[Axanderb]

When you're in the rythym...and you feel you're about to let go...tell him to stop and take a second to calm down....having him pull out and just manually pleasure him until you kind of feel your body coming to a calm.

then procede...you might be able to match up that way.

[LateBloomer]

Different position! Until you're both ready, then go for it.

[Shorny]

Tried lots of positions and all leads to same result, I do suffer from premature ejaculation don't know if that has anything to do with it

[BobInTampa]

A couple of quick tips!
1) DO NOT touch yourself while being penetrated. Takes some discipline, and focus, but do NOT touch yourself while bottoming - at least not till he's ready to cum too.
2) POPPERS! If you don't know what they are, send me a private message and i'll explain offline. But, poppers are a great way to help delay orgasm - but you still can't touch yourself while bottoming ahahah
3) Try to keep bottoming after you've cum. It's not uncommon after having an orgasm to want that thing in your butt to get out...but, believe me, you can learn how to still bottom after you cum. I had a similar issue a while back and i got so tired of it that i finally told my partner to keep going. Yea, it felt a bit uncomfortable at first, but after a minute it started feeling better and, belive it or not, i got hard again and was able to really enjoy it...so don't automatically assume sex has to end after you cum.
4) COMMUNICATE with your partner during penetration. If you're feeling close to cumming, tell him to stop for a second....kiss a bit and let the urge receed, then start up again. It's alot like "edging" when masturbating.
5) I think someone else said this too, but a great technique to avoid cumming too fast is, when you're feeling like you're getting close - change positions!
6) Find the right position for longer sex. It took me a couple times, but i discovered that when i'm bottoming in the "doggie" position, the urge to cum is very, very low. Everyone has one, you just have to focus and explore. Trust me, from the top's perspective, he's gonna be fine with that for a while - because he's making love to you. That's a great way to keep the intensity without the anxiety of cumming too fast!

Hope this helps!