Ekwarph Wrote:I would more or less understand if you had an equivalent of hymen (well, I'm even not sure), but it's not the case. You just had a bad experience, that's all, learn from it and enjoy the next ones!
Gotta say, I don't agree with this. A man who hasn't had sex with someone is just as much a virgin as a woman who hasn't had sex with someone. An intact hymen is not the lone marker of virginity.
Just my opinion, but I think guys give away their virginity much quicker than women, and I think a few (maybe more) to regret it at one point or another.
I didn't come out until I was 27, and had no self-confidence, and was 300 pounds. I knew I was not boyfriend material until I got myself strengthened, mind, body and soul.
End result was I didn't have my first sexual experience until 10 years later. Yes, I'm aware that I could've gone anywhere and had it, but I didn't want it that way.
My first time was with a man 12 years older than me. We were in a relationship, and I explained my situation to him, we were safe, he was kind, patient, and gentle, and never tried to rush or push me in anyway.
I have absolutely no regrets about that night, it is one of many good memories for me, even though we are not together anymore.