I don't understand why people seem to have got so clingy and controlling, and on top of that they have stopped talking to the person they are in a relationship with and started airing their grievances with complete strangers hoping we can answer questions for someone else...especially trivial shit.
If it's bothering you, don't let it fester. Talk to him about it right away.
But know that this isn't one of those things that make or break a relationship. This is not big deal. There are lots of people that look good, and we all have friends that we're honest to about how they look. Or perhaps, we all have friends we want to make look good. Doesn't really matter either way.
They're always going to exist whether you want them to or not.
So instead of making your boyfriend pretend he doesn't see other people that are attractive, or ban him from playfully flirting with other people, just find a way to be secure in your relationship, to know that even if he meets someone that's attractive, nothing is going to happen and he's going to stay with you.
Knowing that the person you love has access to your Facebook world, it's rude and heartless, unless he's your boyfriend's straight, with no attraction, high school chum. Don't confront him, just talk to him. You've let out your initial reaction through us. Now, be good to yourself and don't add any unnecessary drama.
do you check your boyfriends facebook often ? did he just post a random comment like we all do on fb ,,, or are u spying ? if not why check his fb ,, he is your boyfriend - but how do u explain looking on his facebook without causing a problem if you confront him
Did you just look at his page? Or did you login to his account? If you did the latter, you fucked up. You shouldn't be spying on your BF, or invading his privacy.
If I were in your shoes, I wouldn't be upset about my BF looking at other guys, or posting things like "you're hot", or "Damn, you sexy". I don't have a problem if my BF does shit like that, or watches porn. For us, that's the line. He can't do interactive cam sessions, or engage in any sort of interactive flirting. But we set those boundaries, specifically. It sounds like you haven't had a discussion, and defined what the boundaries of your relationship are going to be. You need to do that. It will save you both a lot of aggravation and emotions if you just have an open, honest discussion, and lay out what each of you want and expect. And be willing to negotiate. He's your partner, not your enemy, and you two should be working together,
Others have already said it, so I left this video.
Boys will always look, its just how they is programmed, but you need to be the Nicki Minaj in this situation and lay down the law on the do's and Don't and what you like and you don't. Don't like your man looking? Then tell him so, don't waste time or emotions on the limitations you put on yourself for not putting down a line for "we".
First thing I see is "Gay Man in an Open Gay Relationship" - Then:
adrian7 Wrote:So I checked my boyfriend's Facebook and he commented on another guy picture saying "sexy boy"...
A hundred questions pop into my head. At first I'm thinking he wants you to get a look at "sexy boy" to see if you agree. But that would only be if he gave you permission to login to his facebook account. And then of course, the obvious question, "Why were you snooping?" Or Was it snooping, i.e. did you have permission?
swalter Wrote:...It sounds like you haven't had a discussion, and defined what the boundaries of your relationship are going to be. You need to do that. It will save you both a lot of aggravation and emotions if you just have an open, honest discussion, and lay out what each of you want and expect. And be willing to negotiate. He's your partner, not your enemy, and you two should be working together,
Especially in an open relationship, the boundaries need to be set, and they need to be very clear-cut. If I were in your shoes, on the one hand I would consider whether I agree on "sexy boy" or whether I should hide my head in shame for snooping.
He just complimented another person and it doesn't mean he is already cheating, and that he wants to have a relationship with that guy
Though person varies from another, in a very objective sense, nothing's wrong with that unless there's more to the "sexy boy" comment like "sexy boy lets meet tonight at 6pm at the same place". Then you have a reason to be really mad if that's the case
I see it about as harmless as watching a movie with your fella and saying jake gyllenhaal is a sexy boy, it means nothing but invading somebodys privacy is a slap in the face.
What should I think of this?
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That's very important.
