Will any gay guy ever like me if I have an extra small penis and am overweight?

[Indianspirit]

I am in the closet. I watch gay porn all the time but feel shame afterwards thinking that I will never even be able to even touch or kiss a guy. I am afraid that if I ever show someone my penis they will laugh at how small it is. If I ever even somehow get so lucky as to meet a guy somehow and they're gay and they like me because cupid shot some arrow in their butt that makes them out of it out of reality and I ever get the chance to have sex can my penis even fit right into a butthole? Not kidding. Not trying to make a joke. I feel like I have sexual problems and I'm afraid I'll never have a boyfriend or even touch a gay guy and if we do somehow have sex how do I have it because it might be hard to try and fit a small penis. I know when I watch porn I love ripped muscles and huge cocks and I just don't know if a gay guy can like someone like me. At least I could lose the weight and gain muscle and don't tell me the penis is hiding under the fat because I can feel it, it's small.

You have no idea how much it would mean to me if I could just simply make out with a guy, even just a kiss or him letting me touch his butt would probably make me jizz in my pants. Yet I don't know if I have the courage to even try to talk to a gay guy or try and "seek them out" because I'm afraid of being discovered that I'm gay and I don't want people to hate me. I fantasize about having sex but am afraid no one will get turned on by my body. I always have dreams almost every night that I'm in an orgy and love it but then I wake up and feel shamed that I'll never have sex.

[Harry]

I don't think you should worry so much about what other people think, but more about what you think. There's nothing to be ashamed of for being gay, and if your friends can't accept you for who you are, then they're probably not good friends at all. You mentioned that your two major insecurities are your penis size and your weight, it's easier for you to hate yourself than others to, so I think you should cut yourself some slack. It's not your fault at the end of the day, and it's simply how you were born. I'm sure a time will come when you meet someone that will love you for who you are, and you shouldn't feel like that just because you might be different in some areas, that would compromise anything.

I can talk from my own personal perspective as a gay guy, if I met someone that I really liked, who was funny, caring and had a good personal, something so trivial as penis size wouldn't bother me in the slightest. The problem lies greatly with social norms, there's too much emphasis on penis sizes that just makes it ridiculous and it's simply to make people feel bad about themselves. Not every gay guy cares about how big someone's penis is, and where you may not be blessed in some areas, I'm sure you have a great personality which makes up for it.

[swalter]

Don't be so hard on yourself, buddy! Dicks come in all shapes and sizes - not everyone has an 8" meat log hanging between their legs. I believe the average is somewhere between 5-6", meaning there are plenty smaller than that.

As long as you have this negative self-image, you're going to have problems. The way you see yourself dictates how others see you. If you're ashamed of yourself, or feel such a low sense of self-worth, others will pick up on that. You've got to find a way to accept yourself and carry yourself with pride.

I can tell you for sure that the size of your penis is a bigger problem in your head than it is in reality. We fall in love with other people - who they are - not their cocks. There are plenty of tops who don't give two shits how big or small your dick is. And there's quite a few bottoms who prefer an avg-small penis over a big one. Point is, your cock doesn't define you, or your worth in a relationship. But you've got to find a way to make peace with what you've got.

Let me know if you want some help working on your self-esteem. I realize this is a sensitive subject, and you may be more comfortable talking in private. My door is always open.

Please, try and remember that you are a valuable person, worthy of love and respect. Life isn't gay porn, and you don't need to hold yourself up in comparison with fantasy.

[Mark]

I agree with both of the above. To someone else it may seem trivial and just something to use. Not all guys want some monster thing to play with because its quite worrying what damage it can do! As long as you can perform normal functions I don't see why you would worry that a guy would laugh. Believe me there are also a lot of guys out there that would much prefer something small rather than something big.

Bodies are initial turn ons - but someone could have a god like body, yet be a fool and that really wouldn't turn me on. To get to that stage I have to have some sort of connection and like the guy! Ugliness comes in a variety of forms, and not just the visual form.

I believe if you have a problem with the way you look then others will feed off that. Until you accept yourself for who you are, how can you expect someone else too? If some guy starts talking to you and really likes you but then turns because you don't look like a porn star.. You're kinda better off without him.

[Tyrion]

It seems to me that all you're focusing on is sex. Relationships are about more than just sex (or at least should be, in my opinion). If you have a good personality and are a nice guy, you'll eventually find someone as long as you put yourself out there. If you're a negative person who wallows in pity over trivial issues however, it will be a lot harder.

As for having a small penis.... a dick is a dick. If someone likes you for who you are it shouldn't matter.

[CellarDweller]

As long as you have this negative self-image, you're going to have problems. The way you see yourself dictates how others see you. If you're ashamed of yourself, or feel such a low sense of self-worth, others will pick up on that. You've got to find a way to accept yourself and carry yourself with pride.

SWalter is right.

I used to be a negative person, and it came through to anyone who interacted with me. Once I let myself be positive, I began to get hit on.

[Cuddly]

As they all said. What you have isn't going to change, so love it! It's patheticly shallow to judge people by their bodyweight or their cocksize and anybody who would do so, to you, isn't worth having in your life. Simples!
But don't worry, just because there's alot of Grindr no-fats,no-skinnies,no-blacks,no-<insertanything!> gays out there, doesn't mean there aren't any less-vain, good intelligent, homosexuals who will love you just as you are.

[ddd]

There aren't many things that I can add to all the excellent posts above. Maybe I will surprise you, but do you know there are gay guys who are into people like you? I bet, I kind of shocked you... The world of porn is just an illusion, in real life men come in different shapes and sizes (like it was already mentioned above) and that's why the world is so wonderful, right...

[Wolfpack]

You are still very young so I would not have any fear about having sex, you still have plenty of time.
As ddd as stated porn is not real just a illusion.
You are not the only yet to find love, plenty of us are in the same boat, so their will be other guys around just like you.
As for your penis size I am sure it will not matter, I could not care less how big ar small a guys penis is, what would matter most to me is that he has fun and enjoys himself., So try not to put yourself down over something that will not even matter.

[Anonymous]

These insecurities,believe me,I could relate. I was weighted around 220 pounds,and yeah,as much as I want to believe it's the fat that's making my dick looks small,the reality is it's not. It is relatively small to the average,and I'm not comparing with those porn stars 'cause they aren't average at all. The fat might have hindered my growth during adolescence period,but it's too late and there's no use obsessing over something that's not in my control. What is still in my control however is my weight,and so I'm working to lose that weight,not 'cause I hate my chubby look,but I'm also worried about my health in general.

It's not your physical that's gonna turn people away,but these insecurities will get in the way first. You have to do something to tone it down. 'Cause when you finally do,you'll realize your physical is still attractive to others. If you feel satisfied with your size and health,you could always look for chubby chaser or other chubby who are into chubby as well. If you're not satisfied with your current condition,then work out and slim down. As for cock size,there's nothing you could do about it. Guys who care about size down there are shallow,and you are better off without them. Well,I'd still say there are guys who are into small dick (god,there are always people into everything,lol),so if you're looking for casual sex,these people could still be your option,though it's not my thing. Relationship lookers should not be that shallow,and if they are,they aren't ready in my opinion.

Try Chasabl and Grommr as starter if you're still unconvinced. There are plenty of chasers (who are good looking and ripped too I might add) who are looking for chubby,like really really big chubby. I checked them out just to see how the other side looks like,and apparently it's not that different. People are still being shallow,only their preference is chubby instead of ripped and muscular. Also,there's very few who use the site in my area,so it's a waste of time looking for guys thousands of miles away.