What's on Your Mind

[InbetweenDreams]

That's awesome @Meebs

Cops will write tickets for any reason they can... One reason I have a dash cam. People will lie to try to get out of things. People around here will call their buddies to be fake witnesses too.

[Meebs]

Not trying to be a downer or depressing. Found out some bad news tonight and now feeling very sad and alone.

[CellarDweller]

Oh, I'm sorry to hear this, Meebs. I hope that tomorrow finds you feeling better.

[LJay]

No need to apologize, Meebs. We all get bad news. Just sorry it was you today.

Let us know if we can help.

[InbetweenDreams]

@Meebs Sorry to hear that, I hope you're ok

[InbetweenDreams]

This happened this morning around 11 AM and I kind of can't get it off my mind.

So this guy who I went to high school with, not really friends but been trying to be nice to him since his mother passed away. To give sort of a background. He's a few years older than me, doesn't have a job or any income, a bit of an alcoholic I learned today and irresponsible. He was kicked out of the air force for being lazy if I recall. So it might sound I'm not exactly praising this guy and perhaps a little judgey. So a tire on his car blew up because it was down to the steel belt and has been needing rides and stuff, never really got around to doing that but he video called me on Facebook this morning. He wanted to talk and get advice and so forth. I did not have my camera on, but he left his on for some reason. Anyway, he's not gay but reminded me a while back that he's "not into that gay shit." I can see he is drunk, slurring words and then drinking straight out of a bottle of vodka several times during the call. He asked me what he should do because he has no money since his mom passed away from cancer and bills and mortgage are due next month. I of course suggested he get sober and look for a job... There are places hiring but it is probably stuff he won't want to do.

Here's where the conversation got dark....

His mother was apparently psychologically abusive to him. I kind of get that and I see how that can have a profound effect on someone and so on. According to him she would guilt him if he left the house and do stuff like stand in the road to get hit by a car. I don't know all the details, usually I find there's way more to these stories. So up to that point I kind of felt bad for him and was willing to help and try to nudge him down the right path. Of course, this is all before I find he's a raging alcoholic and just a crappy human being...

He asks me if he can tell me something and of course I'm supposed to keep a secret. He confesses to me that he "body slammed" his mother after his mother got on his last nerve apparently. I only met his mother once, but she's small old lady. This is like a 300 lb guy throwing your 4'10" granny around...who has cancer. Of course, he was drinking when he did it. I did remain calm through the rest of the call which he actively ignored the advice I was giving him...he sat the phone on the coffee table pointed up at the ceiling fan. So basically he was throwing a pity party and apparently to also feel sorry for him because he threw his mother to the ground and now she's gone and he feels bad for doing it. Yes he should feel awful about it.

At any rate. I just blocked him and decided to cut all ties. I don't need that crap in my life. I have been around enough alcoholics to know nothing good can come from it. I like to help people when I can but I'm not a therapist and I'm not going to throw a pity party for a 38 year old man who couldn't get his life together. I know I'm not perfect. I make mistakes, I live at home, I've done irresponsible things and so on. This should be clear and not need an explanation or a comparison. Not saying I'm some kind of role model but what happened today, just blew a fuse.

I've dealt with a couple alcoholics, all previous co-workers from when I was in my late teens and early 20's. One guy was a bad alcoholic. Was so bad and broke that he would go up to the dollar store to buy mouthwash to drink. He was a nice guy sober but turned into a son of a bitch when he was drunk.

Another alcoholic I dealt with at work, her name was Barbie. Their car broke down and I was elected to pick her up and take her home from work. She had two sweet kids, so I was ok with taking her to the store so she could buy groceries. Except she would always buy more beer and wine than food for her kids and you can bet never had enough to fix their car. She eventually had her kids taken away because sher and her deadbeat husband BEAT them.

I don't need crap in my life. Been there, done that...tried to help only to be called an asshole. I need positive energy.

Again, I like helping people, sometimes we need to vent, but telling me you beat up on your dying mother is a bridge too far. I didn't mean to upset anyone with this post but this is what's been on my mind today.

[Bhp91126]

@InbetweenDreams good for you to know when to get out. You’re right, nothing good could have come out of this.

[Spades]

Feeling frustrated because we are trying to fight a broken and corrupt system by following that broken and corrupt system's processes.

Enough with the legal cases, time for action!

[Chase]

I want my ears to get better

[InbetweenDreams]

I want my ears to get better

I hope so too. Do those tinnitus therapy videos (not precisely sure that's what they're called) that @LJay mentioned a while back?

I believe it was something like this...