Is 10 inches too much

[Kha]

I'm 5'5 and I wanna date someone 7'

[1285pytk]

Average is good enough

[AlohaShannon]

When I lived as a straight man, my ex-wife was 5'1" and I'm 6'0". Neither of us had a problem with it but then again the height difference kind of fit into stereotypical gender roles. I'm not sure if I'd be ok with dating a guy that's 6'10", it might make me automatically feel like I'm supposed to be submissive. I prefer to bottom so I guess I could fall into that role ok, but I want it to be my choice, not an expectation. Sorry, it's 4:37 am here and I'm delirious...I tend to ramble when I'm in a state of mind like this.

Now, for the OTHER part of the 10" conversation. The last guy I was with was VERY large, I didn't get a chance to measure him but I swear he impaled me with a baseball bat. Anyways, I discovered that I would rather have an average size that I can thoroughly enjoy rather than feel like I'm in the movie "Aliens" and a monster is trying to claw its way out of my tummy!

Oh, and as for lube...COCONUT OIL IS THE BEST THERE IS! It's completely safe, doesn't get sticky, doesn't break down other substances, is actually really good for your body, and has so many additional purposes.

[Wolfpack]

Thanks for that post AlohaS, parts of it made me LOL and has made my day hehe

[AlohaShannon]

You're welcome Wolfy! I'm a giver after all...no wait, I'm a taker...whatever.

[Har19]

Well here is a thing that riddles, G.

Too much of something is bad enough.
But something's coming over me to make me wonder
Too much of nothing is just as tough
I need to know the way to feel to keep me satisfied

think about it.

*winks,Har

[showme]

Oh, and as for lube...COCONUT OIL IS THE BEST THERE IS! It's completely safe, doesn't get sticky, doesn't break down other substances, is actually really good for your body, and has so many additional purposes.

Please be careful - don't use a latex comdom with coconut oil or any other non-water-based lube. It's not safe. Use a polyurethane condom instead.

[AlohaShannon]

Please be careful - don't use a latex comdom with coconut oil or any other non-water-based lube. It's not safe. Use a polyurethane condom instead.

It was my understanding that though it is an oil, it specifically does not break down latex. Since coming out I've only had sex once and used a regular lube (and condom). I've only used the coconut oil on my toys.

I appreciate you bringing this to my attention and definitely warrants more research.

Thanks!

[Mark]

Aloha your posts manage to make me smile a lot haha

[Virge]

I can give you some insight on the hazards of height differences and how it effects things. I'm 26 y/o 6'5" 180 lbs and in great shape. My BF is 28 y/o 5'8" 155 lbs and all BB lean muscle. Both masculine. No matter where we go out in public around straight people who don't know us we get stares and giggles. but that's no big deal.

The big deal is the physical stuff no one talks about until it becomes an issue.

The shorter guy is going to develop neck problems from craning his neck back to look up so much IF you don't learn to step back away from each other when you're talking instead of hugging up to do it. My BF has to do home traction for his because we forget until it becomes a problem.

The tall guy is going to get a bad pain thing going on in upper back between shoulder blades from leaning in to look down. The best way to describe it is having a basketball between your lungs. Over a long period it can cause the tall guy to almost develop a permanent slouch to keep out of the pain. I stay on good terms with my chiropractor.

Now for sex positions... LOL...
We gave up on doggy style long ago after some really bad incidents. Don't ask. just take my word for it.
Face to face positions work great for us in any horizontal or vertical variation. Standing shower sex (NOT bathtub showers!!!!) is off the charts. So is top standing bottom laying on bed-edge if it has been raised to the best height (just tell everyone you did it for extra storage underneath and they'll believe you)