Do not give up, take some sometime for yourself, the right person may come along when you least expect it.
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*waves to ChrisH down in RR from up here in Taos*
If it's not going to work out with a guy, realizing this after a month is actually pretty great. Sure, it's disappointing, but at least you aren't wasting your time with the guy any longer. Each relationship you're in ideally makes you a little smarter for when the next one happens.
One dating skill worth acquiring is to try to develop an even pacing. When you go on a walk with someone, if you walk at the same pace, you can be a mile down the trail and you're still walking together, enjoying each other's company and the scenery too. But if your pace is different from the other guy's pace, a mile down the trail and you're so far apart you don't even see each other.
When you first start dating another guy, the rush of the initial excitement can make you give your emotions away too quickly. A month is no time to start thinking that you know the guy, that he knows you, and that your feelings and hopes and desires are aligned. If you take a slower pace, you might have less heartbreak.
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I'm 57, do I have permission to be a jaded old queen yet?
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Yup, pretty much how I've been lately haha though I didn't give up on dating all together, I just stopped spending so much time looking for guys. Good things come to those who wait I guess.
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19? You certainly started late. I took my first lover when I was 13 and it lasted 16 years. I'm sure it would have gone longer but he was killed in a plane crash. Oh, and there was a 30 year difference in our ages although I was the Alpha Male. As others have said, don't look for it, it will find you. I found mine when, on an aisle seat in First Class he fell in my lap when the plane lurched. Lucky, wasn't it, that I always prefer an aisle seat. You're far too young to be so sangfroid about love and relationships. Try being a young man instead of a moonstruck "jilted" lover. Go out, play, whatever it is you like to do even if it's going through the stacks in the library. You may be another bookworm whom you find to be just the article you were looking for.
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