07-07-2014, 08:46 AM
MrMom Wrote:Yeah, I'm pretty much a hopeless romantic too, though I can pass on the cute animal vids lol -
People's attitudes are interesting. I was on another forum for a while and actually got some resentment from a couple guys. The attitude seemed to be, Oh, you're married so you've got it made. One guy said it was irritating to hear me talk about my husband in positive terms all the time and I had no idea what the "real scene" was like.
Thinking about it, maybe his pissy attitude was why he didn't do too well in the romance department.
I've had the same complaints in other gay forums, Brett and it made me sit back and think about things. Jay and I both cringe about outward type romantic stuff most the time. We don't ever talk like valentine cards.... BUT..... unconsciously our own versions of sweet talk developed that sound nothing like sweet talk to others. Here in GS people are different, a lot friendlier and lot more positive than anywhere I hung out.
Then there's what others see and hear.
I bitch all the time about how he bosses me around and talks mean to me. He complains about me being hard headed, physically abusive and always dirty. When he's here, talking about me like I'm some cave man to my friends and family I just sit back, keep my mouth shut and grin about it... just listening.... enjoying it. To be honest I really like him being bossy and he likes it when I pick him up under one arm and throw him around like we're trailer trashing and I'm the brute redneck he makes me out to be.
it's all hard to describe to people who aren't in relationships. And I had no idea what it would be like until I got sucked into one with this jerk. Now I can't imagine life without him.