Am I too religious?

[MrMom]

Too religious? Look, you are who you are, and your beliefs are a part of who you are. If you are comfortable with your religious practice, then screw anyone who disses you over it. If some BF doesn't like it, dump him and find someone who does.
You cannot compromise your beliefs for someone else. There's no right or wrong here. We all need to define who we are and live a genuine and honest life.

[Camfer]

Next Saturday when you go to your place of worship, check out the other guys afterwards in case you find one you find attractive. Chances are you're not too religious for him!

[Anonymous]

The first thing that springs to my mind is how do you equate your and your future boyfriend's homoxesuality with your religion given that the majority of religions rail against it as a sin?

I have a staunch belief that God accepts me for who I am.

Also in my religion, there is a belief that the soul has no gender (male or female). After pondering over it, I believe that homosexuals' love is in no way inferior and in all ways equivalent to heterosexuals' love. (Its fully my own belief.)

I apologize if I have said anything that hurt anyone.

[Bowyn Aerrow]

The only time I pray for 20 minutes in one sitting is when something very, very bad is happening and we need a DI (Deity Intervention).

The thing that troubles me here is that you feel that you must hide this by waking up earlier and being there for your BF so prayer, ergo God/Allah/Deity has become second place in your life.


That ain't going to end well.


I suggest you find someone who shares your system of beliefs instead of trying to mix it up with someone of another walk in life. You are a little 'too dedicated' to this prayer thing and I suspect you are running a great risk of really pissing off He Who is On High by dating the wrong sort to where you have to hide your faith.

[Anonymous]

There seems to be a problem with my quote option.

I would like to thank bilkiba, East, Uneunsae, TwisttheLeaf, MrMom, Camfer and Bowyn Aerrow for your kind advices.

[Camfer]

Don't worry, Bowyn. As I read it he's only concerned about his theoretical future BF and is not currently involved with anyone.

The only time I pray for 20 minutes in one sitting is when something very, very bad is happening and we need a DI (Deity Intervention).

The thing that troubles me here is that you feel that you must hide this by waking up earlier and being there for your BF so prayer, ergo God/Allah/Deity has become second place in your life.


That ain't going to end well.


I suggest you find someone who shares your system of beliefs instead of trying to mix it up with someone of another walk in life. You are a little 'too dedicated' to this prayer thing and I suspect you are running a great risk of really pissing off He Who is On High by dating the wrong sort to where you have to hide your faith.

[Bowyn Aerrow]

Yes, I am aware that this is a trending thought, however it is a troubling thought.

Balancing the needs of the soul/spirit against the secular world is a difficult one.

On the one hand we wish to please 'S/He who is on High (God/Allah/Deity/etc), yet on the other we desire to dwell in the secular world.

If one has such a strong faith where 20 minutes of prayer a day is mandatory to maintain ones spiritual contact, then hiding it from the BF or down playing it does spiritual damage - or damage to the relationship that one had with God as one understands God to be.

OP requires a man who can accept his devotion to God as he understands God.

Hiding the prayer, hiding his faith will do no good, it will instead do a great deal of harm to OP and to his relationship with his partner. If not actually his realtionship with God as he understands God to be.

[ObeyTheB]

If I really loved the person then I wouldn't mind him getting up every morning to pray or to go to Church every Saturday for thirty minutes....I mean, I was brought up in a very religious household to begin with so praying in the house at any given time isn't our of the normal for me. Now, if the person were trying to get me to get up every morning to pray it would definitely become a problem. My faith is spiritual more than anything else. I guess what I'm trying to say is...As long as he isn't an Atheist, I have no issues with my future S/O's religious views and or practices...It is their life and I believe they should practice religion however they wish to.

[darren23a]

Honestly I don't think your beliefs would be an issue. I would assume that your need to pray and worship would come up fairly early in any potential relationship and if the guy wasn't willing to tolerate your religious beliefs that he wouldn't pursue the relationship any further.

If your religion is a large part of your life you're probably better off looking to spend time with guys who believe the same things you do.

Personally i'm an atheist and i've never dated a guy who is religious but that's coincidental rather than deliberate. I don't think it'd bother me too much because I value independence in my partner and would be quite happy for them to go off and do their own thing, that said I would expect them to value my independence too and not try and convert me. I hope it works out for you though.

[LJay]

OP, I think it is important that a boyfriend be tolerant of your beliefs and practices, not necessarily that he agree with them or join you in prayer. In establishing a relationship, I would not bring it up first thing, but early on, as you get to know each other. If it makes him uncomfortable, you have to move on. If not, then you can continue to work on a relationship. Just try not to make it a game stopper from the beginning. If that is the case for you, then you must sort the issue out before you try dating.