Boyfriend kissed someone else and wants to break up

[Anonymous]

My boyfriend kissed someone else at a works party. He told me on the phone and wants to break up. He told me that we are not going any where we are stuck in a rut. I am so afraid of losing him. I am so scared off being alone.

[Iceblink]

Better to be alone than have a boyfriend who kisses another guy and then breaks up with you with a phone call. Do not let wanting to not be alone make you accept someone and try to win back someone who is not treating you right.

[cftxp]

I second that. I don't have much experience in terms of relationships but if I am found in one, he better treat me right, want me to treat him right, we'd be able to compromise on the right stuff, and we'd always support each other. Unless you're in an open relationship, I'd cut him loose, he doesn't deserve you anyway if he's willing to break that trust.

[Anocxu]

Better to be alone than have a boyfriend who kisses another guy and then breaks up with you with a phone call. Do not let wanting to not be alone make you accept someone and try to win back someone who is not treating you right.

I agree
His Boyfriend is being a flake...
He would be better off alone at this point.

[Virge]

[CellarDweller]

LIsten to what everyone has said. You are better off alone than with someone who will mistreat you. You deserve much better than that.

[TwisttheLeaf]

I know that being alone can be a difficult and even frightening concept. But it might be something to consider embracing for a while, especially if you are feeling so dependent on your partner that you're considering keeping someone that so disrespects and disregards your feelings in the way this one clearly is and has.

It's better to be alone and search for the right guy who can make you happy..
Than be with the wrong guy that makes you -un-happy and end up missing out on the right one.

[50Plus]

Remember that there is a huge difference between being alone and being lonely.

I have generally always been alone. And have hardly ever been lonely.

Its the mindset. Look forward to and embrace the time to be alone.

[Bowyn Aerrow]

I feel for you, I really do....

However this sort of 'I must stick with X, because being alone is more horrible' is rarely a statement of truth. It is a statement of fear of the unknown.

The unknown in this is what its like to be you as a single person. Most likely not as horrifying as you think... and I am reasonably certain, say 81.29% certain that you will meet a better guy and have a chance of pursing a relationship of equals.

Let this one go... No its not easy, yes it will hurt. However it hurts less than being chained to a person who doesn't love you.

[Drew02]

It seems like I read 2 issues in your post. Fear of losing him. Fear of being alone. You need to think about whether you want HIM in his own right, or just SOMEONE so that you're not alone.
Break-ups are brutal and often bring feelings of desperation and panic. But clinging to someone who'd rather be somewhere else is worse.
It may not seem like it, but you'll get through this and in time you'll find someone more suited to you, someone you can build a real relationship with.