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07-26-2014, 02:48 AM

How is your home life now?

Previously there had been a lot of excitement from initiating gay sex to being homeless to moving about to minor drug addictions to family arguments to (I think) petty crime to escorting to major financial issues to living in a tent to living in a car to who knows what else.

Is the sex better when there is some form of excitement going on? Are you two in an 'excitement rut' at present?

Camfer · 07-26-2014, 04:43 AM

The answer is so obvious but no one's mentioned it. You just have to pay him. It will be just like old times.

Or, you could find yourself a real boyfriend as others mentioned. Your second option.

07-26-2014, 08:57 AM

Okay I have read and thought about the replays and I appreciate it very much, I relize I did not mention loving him at all but I figured it would be obvious that I love him. I have followed him to hell and back and he had followed me as well. I do truely love him with all my heart, he does know this I tell him all the time

With the escorting yes it was not a good thing to do but I was not one of those people that stood on the corner and got fucked for 20 dollars. I had limits he only massaged the guy/cock and gave oral. He only massaged and was there for looks. We did this because we had to an i know he didn't like doing it who would ? but I think he did Semi enjoy it because it gave him a reason to have to mess around with guys

I have talked to Cody about this, he tells me that he needs pussy and is craving pussy but I am not open to a open realtionship when Cody and me first got together he was with a girl and it hurt me really bad thinking about it, but he says he desires to have sex with a girl. So I think him not giving up is almost some sort of way to punish me for not being okay with him running around sleeping with girls. I did offer to have a 3 way but he said no.

I am afraid that if I allowed him to, that this once in a blue moon fuckingg a girl would become into all the time and he would leave me. At the same time I can not even stomach the thought of hi. Being with a girl I love this man so much I would do anything for him.

I can not picture leaving him just cause the lack of sex and I do not believe in cheating, I do not want him to cheat on me which he has done in the past. So finding cock someplace is out of the question

I really beileve Cody is afraid of being bisexual, his family would disown him for what he says and he is a afraid of what people would say.

Cody may not have sex with me or call his partner he actually says he is single but he does show me love, he cares for me and would do anything for me. He protects me especially if someone says something mean. He cuddles with me and comforts me when he is sad. When we walk down the street he will pick me flowers. We do not go anywhere without eachother an we both do not make decisions without the others approval. Also are money is in one account, an everything he and I own is both of ours. Most of ours clothes we even share. The way he treats me and acts with me anybody would feel like they where partners. Me and him are more like a married couple then real married couples I know.

I mention spending the rest of our life's with eachother and he said we will not end up getting married, but he slips up an says our house and cars an other stuff but In his perfect world it would be me and him like we are and a hot blonde in the closet he can pull out and fuck whenever. But I know no matter what I couldn't handle that. I don't even think I could handle a 3 some

Now that you have more information does this make more sense where I am coming from. Me and him have broke up here and there and no matter what we come back to eachother

07-26-2014, 09:06 AM

Oh and to answer is are life less excitement. Yes it for once in are life we are stable me and him have never been stable before. We work 24/7 so we don't do much, but he seems content with this. At the end of the day both of us will say I can't wait to lay and bed and watch a movie.

We have been like this since last October when we do something fun at the end of the night he says I had a lot of fun and smiles. The excitement from all our old problems cause stress and fighting but also kept us entertained. We fight way less now which is extremely better an with workin so much we never get bored besides the everyday routine but we don't mind because we both agree that our life's have never been better.

07-26-2014, 05:09 PM

Was there more sex with him when you were both experiencing much more 'excitement' in life?

Has the sex dried up since you both became much more stable?

07-28-2014, 01:53 AM

Camfer Wrote:The answer is so obvious but no one's mentioned it. You just have to pay him. It will be just like old times.

Or, you could find yourself a real boyfriend as others mentioned. Your second option.

OMG!...
But great advice!

07-30-2014, 11:58 AM

I don't find that funny and I have asked him " what do I need to pay you" he doesn't find it funny

07-30-2014, 12:18 PM

None of this is funny, I wonder how do other guys see you?
Do you get hit on at all?
The thing is, when it's over It's over. If the attraction isn't there anymore on the side of any given partner in a relationship, then it's usually the other partner that has to make the break. Or risk being Hurt even more.
It is a sad story. Good Luck.

07-30-2014, 02:41 PM

Br3ntwhite Wrote:Okay I have read and thought about the replays and I appreciate it very much, I relize I did not mention loving him at all but I figured it would be obvious that I love him. I have followed him to hell and back and he had followed me as well. I do truely love him with all my heart, he does know this I tell him all the time

With the escorting yes it was not a good thing to do but I was not one of those people that stood on the corner and got fucked for 20 dollars. I had limits he only massaged the guy/cock and gave oral. He only massaged and was there for looks. We did this because we had to an i know he didn't like doing it who would ? but I think he did Semi enjoy it because it gave him a reason to have to mess around with guys

I have talked to Cody about this, he tells me that he needs pussy and is craving pussy but I am not open to a open relationship when Cody and me first got together he was with a girl and it hurt me really bad thinking about it, but he says he desires to have sex with a girl. So I think him not giving up is almost some sort of way to punish me for not being okay with him running around sleeping with girls. I did offer to have a 3 way but he said no.

I am afraid that if I allowed him to, that this once in a blue moon fuckingg a girl would become into all the time and he would leave me. At the same time I can not even stomach the thought of hi. Being with a girl I love this man so much I would do anything for him.

I can not picture leaving him just cause the lack of sex and I do not believe in cheating, I do not want him to cheat on me which he has done in the past. So finding cock someplace is out of the question

I really beileve Cody is afraid of being bisexual, his family would disown him for what he says and he is a afraid of what people would say.

Cody may not have sex with me or call his partner he actually says he is single but he does show me love, he cares for me and would do anything for me. He protects me especially if someone says something mean. He cuddles with me and comforts me when he is sad. When we walk down the street he will pick me flowers. We do not go anywhere without eachother an we both do not make decisions without the others approval. Also are money is in one account, an everything he and I own is both of ours. Most of ours clothes we even share. The way he treats me and acts with me anybody would feel like they where partners. Me and him are more like a married couple then real married couples I know.

I mention spending the rest of our life's with eachother and he said we will not end up getting married, but he slips up an says our house and cars an other stuff but In his perfect world it would be me and him like we are and a hot blonde in the closet he can pull out and fuck whenever. But I know no matter what I couldn't handle that. I don't even think I could handle a 3 some

Now that you have more information does this make more sense where I am coming from. Me and him have broke up here and there and no matter what we come back to eachother

OK,

now that I've read this as well as your other threads, I have a better understanding of the situation.

You two can remain friends since you do care about each other, look out for each other and have been through a lot together. However, for this situation to be a relationship as you are claiming it to be, is beyond unhealthy and one sided. It does not sound like he loves you the same way you love him. You want a sexual and romantic relationship with him when he has a desire and longing to have a sexual and romantic relationship with a woman.

Think of it this way...the desire, craving and urge you have for cock, he is feeling the same way for pussy.

It is unfair of you to hold him hostage and expect him to give you his cock when he doesn't want to because he has a stronger desire to be with a woman.

He also has some issues to work out with his sexuality and until he does, you cannot expect and demand him to be an equal partner to you in a romantic relationship. You two are not on the same page. If you love him, you would let him go and let him discover himself on his own (you can still be friends and still be in each other's lives) and find someone for yourself who has a better understanding of themselves, who they are and is not afraid to be in a romantic relationship with another man.

As painful as it may be for you to let him go, you need to stop being selfish and show how much you love him by letting go of him.

08-02-2014, 10:24 AM

What ETOTE said.

Honestly? As far as your current "relationship" goes, it just does not sound at all healthy to me. It seems really messed up and quite frankly a rather depressing situation to have to wake up to every single day.

You'd be best off with someone else entirely. Someone else who wants to be with you, finds you attractive both emotionally and physically, etc. Cody clearly has his issues, but you likely also have issues of your own. I know 5 years of being together seems like such a huge waste to toss out, but come on man, from what you've told us, it doesn't sound like a relationship worth keeping.

The "good times" in the early stages of your relationship that you brought up was about sex. Now you're asking us for advice about how to get more sex out of him, while he has apparently expressed wanting to do it with a "hot blonde". You never told us about his personality, what it is about him you really love, WHY you love being with him, what kind of things you loved doing with him (other than sex) before your current problems. It's quite clear the foundation of your relationship was sex. When that's the foundation of a relationship, the relationship eventually implodes. Two people also have to be really inlove with each other (versus just being lustful over one another) for any relationship to work.