Am I really gay?
Capricorn
07-29-2014, 03:10 PM
I think you might be too eager to attach labels to yourself. Perhaps it might be better for you to simply explore what you like before trying to think about what that makes you, gay or straight. For now you can simply think of yourself as someone who is not into girls but feminine guys. Explore that side of you some more.
Moreover, it sounds like you're thinking there's only a limited range of options of gender and sexual roles available to you. It's as if you're thinking that homosexuality is about guys liking masculine guys and if you don't identify with that it somehow makes you "less gay". But being gay does not mean that you have to be a cisgendered male who is attracted to masculine guys. You can be attracted to more feminine guys, older or younger guys, etc. There are lots of different ways of expressing homosexuality.
Moreover, it sounds like you're thinking there's only a limited range of options of gender and sexual roles available to you. It's as if you're thinking that homosexuality is about guys liking masculine guys and if you don't identify with that it somehow makes you "less gay". But being gay does not mean that you have to be a cisgendered male who is attracted to masculine guys. You can be attracted to more feminine guys, older or younger guys, etc. There are lots of different ways of expressing homosexuality.
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