Anonymous Wrote:Hey its Lauj I just wanted to see how this anonymously thing worked. Anyways I'm kind of sad to say this but the color of people's skin does make a difference when I'm dating. I'm not racist (wow that doesn't sound racist at all) but there are certain race that I'm not into. I might find them handsome but not sexually attracted. Its like they are not my type but than they become more of a friend status.
There is a great deal of programming about what a skin color means to the personality and character of the person. Truth, there is programming and experience that is related to all preferences we have. We prefer X over Y because of associations we have in our brain about a person who had X as part of them. If X was a nice person and we liked them, then we tend to favor anyone who has X.
You are influenced by every race based joke, every stereotype applied to a race. That information never magically leaves. It is there, and everyone has a time in their life when such information given to them is related to emotions they felt when they received that information.
Like it or not, we all feel something when we see a person of any skin color. We can't help that. Most of us are never aware of all the emotions we are feeling all the time. People tend to feel many emotions at the same time at different strengths and levels of consciousness. People also suffer from fleeting momentary emotions that they may not have consciously felt, but the human brain is a wonder of engineering and it loves to collect data and apply all the data it has to decide everything.
Mind highly faulty engineering... there is vast room for improvement.
Every preference and attraction is based on the ruler you carry with you. That ruler was forged in the fires of the experiences you have had with EVERYONE you have ever had an interaction with yes even that guy you bumped into 8 years ago and walked on - he left his mark on your ruler. It is tempered with every word of bias you have heard and how that made you feel when you heard it.
It is also the factor that determines instant like or instant loathing.
The brain picks up on every tiny detail - the brain records everything... You may not be able to consciously call up a picture perfect image in your mind of every human being you have encountered, but every single detail is in there, and not a single bio-byte of data is tossed out or not used in your opinion making processes.
All in all it is also the process upon which racism sets it foundation...