NEW 4th new GS interview - TwistTheLeaf

[CarGuy65]

Hi Twist! I so much enjoy all of your post and admire you for being in such a wonderful long distance relationship. My questions are:
How do you deal so well with your LDR?
What do you do to satisfy your urges? (sorry if that is too personal)
Where do you and Gideon see yourselves in 5 years, 10 years?
How often do you get to actually see each other in person?

[Iceblink]

Does marriage appeal to you and it is something you see for yourself in the future?

I hesitated to ask this knowing Gideon is on here and not knowing if this is something the two of you have or have not discussed, so forgive me if it is too personal.

[TwisttheLeaf]

I have a great respect for you from our chats and feel like if i need advice i can come to you for it Thanks

My question is if you had one wish and only one what would it be and why?

Thanks austin! That means a lot to hear you say that.

I hate to be totally boring in my wish but to be entirely honest? I'd wish for money. There's just too many people I could help. Even just in my own family and friends, there's SO many people I could help out in some pretty major ways. And I have to admit that being debt free would be a huge relief on my stress levels (not to mention I currently work 4 jobs just to make ends meet). Boring as hell, I know, and a little selfish as well since I'm not really looking beyond my own life here, but there it is.

You from Seattle originally? If not, what brought you there? How do you like it?

What sort of things do you like to RP?

I grew up on the Washington peninsula and moved to Seattle soon after graduating from high school. I moved to Seattle primarily for my education, but I love it here. I miss the additional rain that the deeper parts of the peninsula get, though.

Hi Twist!

What impact do you want to leave on the world?
What is the most defining moment of your life thus far?
In the haste of your daily life, what are you not seeing?
What lifts your spirits when life gets you down?
Have you ever regretted something you did not say or do?

I don't expect to impact the world in major ways, but more like chaos theory and the flapping of a butterfly's wings... I hope the small things I do to help others or lift others spirits will spread outward and grow as each act is sent out into the world. I hope, in that way, that I make the world a better place.

I'm not sure if I have just one. I've had to overcome a pretty significant number of major trials in my life to date. Speaking of truly -defining moments-, though, I guess if you bear right down to it, it would have to be having emancipated from my parents. The demand for independence, the responsibility, etc.... as a whole, it has probably made me who I am today in a way that nothing else has.

I would say that in my daily life's haste that what I'm not seeing is probably... people. I'm very aesthetically focused, especially on nature. I'm more likely to notice an interesting growth of moss or fungi on a tree I pass on the sidewalk than the face of even one of the people I pass. I can often pass people that I know without even realizing it, because my focus just -isn't- on the people at all. It's on the unique angle of a building's architecture or a flowering weed growing from a crack in the sidewalk, etc.

What lifts my spirits when life gets me down is actually mentioned in the post above. Nature. Beauty. Working in the garden tending to flowers and plants, etc. All of these things can help me lift my spirits, or help me find balance when things become too chaotic. Talking to Gideon can also do this, although the process to navigate there is different.

Of course. Who hasn't, yeah? Resisting following my instincts is #1 on this list. It's one of those "DAMNIT, I knew I should have... " that everyone has. I try to always follow my instincts, though, so it doesn't happen very often. Also, I regret EVERY fucking time I hurt someone's feelings. I can't help it that I feel bad about this, even in times when they very clearly deserve what they get. It's far more often I regret having done something, than having -not- done something, though.

Hi Twist! I so much enjoy all of your post and admire you for being in such a wonderful long distance relationship. My questions are:
How do you deal so well with your LDR?
What do you do to satisfy your urges? (sorry if that is too personal)
Where do you and Gideon see yourselves in 5 years, 10 years?
How often do you get to actually see each other in person?

Thanks so much CarGuy! I feel very lucky for what I have with Gideon.

I think I have a one-up on a LOT of people when it comes to my LDR, as I was never interested in being in a relationship until I met Gideon. So I had no fantasies going in about what a relationship would or should be, instead I built on what there was right before me. I also have a very extreme independent streak that I'm quite fierce about, which proably also helps with the LDR.

Aside from that, Gideon and I are in communication daily, often numerous times a day. Every day. We are attuned to each other's schedules and communicate everything going on with us, so this helps that closeness even through distance.

Satisfying urges.... Gideon and I do a sort of roleplay called interactive storytelling. It's a creative writing type of exercise where you build a story and a "life" for your characters in a virtual setting. We spend time doing this at least a few times a week or more for a couple hours at a time. Sometimes, we also cyber in these stories, creating intimacy through cybersex that can often reach beyond to create intense emotions and sensations through written word.

5 years - 10 years - In person.... I have a very hard time with looking forward to where things will be or where they're going. I always have. Hell, the first year we were together, he mentioned Christmas in the summer months and I was shocked. So... yeah. I see us together. Whether physically or in LDR as we are now, I can't imagine him NOT a part of my life.

Does marriage appeal to you and it is something you see for yourself in the future?

I hesitated to ask this knowing Gideon is on here and not knowing if this is something the two of you have or have not discussed, so forgive me if it is too personal.

I do not think marriage is for me. I have serious issues when it comes to my independence and... I have a feeling marriage would trip my triggers.

Don't get me wrong tho. I think marriage is a beautiful thing. I really admire those who do it and can make it work. I'm just not sure if I'm one of those people. Then again, Gideon has proven me wrong on other things I've thought about in the same way.

[Gideon]

Though these questions are for Twist, I'm mentioned in alot of the questions so I'm going to add my two cents on a few things....

The D/s aspect of our relationship and how it differs from what you might read about?

I spent a great deal of time in the BDSM community before I met Twist. I learned alot by reading a vast amount of resource material, interacting and observing in BDSM chatrooms and forums...even went to a few "munches" or meetings in the community and all of this...I took from it what works for -me-

There is no textbook that explains a 'vanilla" relationship outside of the author's own experience, and the same can be said of what you find on D/s or BDSM online....usually you are finding that single person's version, their experiences, their opinions. I just don't fit into a textbook or under any certain set of rules and even in my experiences...each relationship is unique.

And my relationship with Twist has to be, for me, the most rewarding and unique experience of them all. We have a great deal of trust, respect and love between us and each of these things helps form what works for us.

And though the long distance aspect is rough sometimes(for me it is hardest when he disappears on me due to some rt emergency and I don't know what's going on and am left worrying) It's difficult, yes, but no even close to impossible. It works for us. Those things I listed above...trust, respect, love...they go a long way into making it work, making the impossible possible.

We spend ALOT of time together. Talking, sharing, experiencing new things about one another in one venue or another. Our RPG, or forums, or chatrooms or just talking in IM or texts. Every relationship is about what you put into it...and we put our whole selves into it. It's a beautiful thing, at least in my opinion and worth every ounce of the effort

[TwisttheLeaf]

And my relationship with Twist has to be, for me, the most rewarding and unique experience of them all.

I love you so fucking much man, It just had to be said.

[CarGuy65]

That right there is what I mean when I say I admire you two. What a great love and what a treat to be a witness to it! Wish you guy s all the best!!!!

[AdamAndWill]

I love you so fucking much man, It just had to be said.

Will: You're right, love does have to be spoken, and when I read this it made me realize that I probably don't tell Adam nearly enough that I love him. So...thank you for the inspiration.

[TwisttheLeaf]

Will: You're right, love does have to be spoken, and when I read this it made me realize that I probably don't tell Adam nearly enough that I love him. So...thank you for the inspiration.

My pleasure! Sometimes, Gid will point out when I don't say it enough. Sometimes I think he waits to see if I realize it on my own. *Chuckles* I'm not always the most observant, tho, so that has a habit of sometimes backfiring.

[JimmyEcho]

I just think it's so great to have someone like Twisttheleaf on this Forum.
Someone to offer sound advice and still have a sense of Humor.
Thank you Twisttheleaf.
(Thank you everyone on this forum)---

WOW, I Just read what I wrote and it sounds soooooo GAY.

[TwisttheLeaf]

I just think it's so great to have someone like Twisttheleaf on this Forum.
Someone to offer sound advice and still have a sense of Humor.
Thank you Twisttheleaf.
(Thank you everyone on this forum)---

WOW, I Just read what I wrote and it sounds soooooo GAY.

Aw, thanks man. It means a lot that ppl think my advice, experiences, and opinions are worth reading.