Hardheaded1 Wrote:I would actually think it atypical for a happily partnered man to fixate on a porn star, as I always attribute it to myself and others as a sign of loneliness sexually.
I think you took my comment and pushed it somewhere where it didn't belong.
First off, having a favorite porn star doesn't equate to "fixating" on one, any more than having a favorite author means you obsessively read everything in that author's repertoire over and over again (and presumably hound that author via email to write more). It can just be "I like this guy's work". Secondly, I don't think having one suggests sexual loneliness, because my partner has a few favorites.
The reason I don't have a favorite is because my reaction to porn is apparently atypical. I consider everything tha happens on the screen to be fantasyland, and I don't care to extend it beyond the borders of the screen at all. I've never seen a scene, and thought "wow - that guy is hot - I want to see him in other scenes". Even if I really got into it, my brain is aware that the hot guy(s) was simply one aspect of it. There was the direction, the setting, the chemistry...and just because Hot Guy X was in this scene doesn't mean all of his scenes will be equally hot. In fact, to me, they tend not to be.
In a sense, this expands out from porn for me. I don't have a favorite non-porn actor, either. I know most of my friends will say "oh, I'll see anything with Paul Rudd" (or whoever) but I've never felt that way. The actor is just one aspect of the film (even more so than in porn) and it seems weird to me to see a film just because that actor is in it.
Lex