Confused about a guy I like

[Blueeyedwonder]

Hey, there is a guy I've been thinking about a lot recently as I really like him. I met him at a work party with some colleagues and friends but I didn't know him before. We got chatting at the party and I went back to his place and we slept together...

After that we exchanged numbers have spoken to each other quite a lot and have only met up a couple of times but that was out to bars and a club.

Now, he has said lots of different things that make me think he likes me. Such as complimenting my pictures, saying he really likes being with me and that I'm a great guy. He also has said I look hot etc... The last time I saw him a couple of weeks ago which was the first time in a couple of months... We went out on the town but ended up kissing, cuddling, etc and we were quite close shall we say.

He has indicated he wants a relationship (not with me per say just that he wants to meet someone special) yet he talks about grindr. He also when I said I was bored joked that I should meet someone for sex. This was before we met the last time though.

However, he hasn't given any indications he wants to date me, he sometimes initiates texts and sometimes I do. He does say nice things but sometimes it sounds more like a friend.

Problem is I do want a friendship but I would like to start seeing him properly but I'm not the type to make the first move. I don't know whether he sees me as a friend with benefits, or is unsure himself. But I don't want the friendship to be ruined. Is there ways that I can find out for sure if he likes me before I ask him out?

Shall I also not text him for a few days?

Since seeing him a couple of weeks ago I have been thinking about him a lot and getting abit upset about not being sure and being away from him.

Thanks for all advice!

[Bowyn Aerrow]

However, he hasn't given any indications he wants to date me,

And when you asked him 'do you want to date me?' what did he say?


And if you dare to answer me that you haven't asked him I will not be amused.

I suspect that both of you have been pussy-footing around waiting for the other to initiate that particular conversation. One of you need to ask point blank, put it out there, make it clear where are we now, where would like to go now.


It might as well be you that asks this question since it seems to be causing you so much emotional turmoil.

[palbert]

....The last time I saw him a couple of weeks ago which was the first time in a couple of months...

However, he hasn't given any indications he wants to date me, he sometimes initiates texts and sometimes I do. He does say nice things but sometimes it sounds more like a friend.
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Frankly, this doesn't sound like fertile ground for a relationship, for other than occasional sleep overs.

I would lay my cards on the table and see how he reacts. But I have a good guess.



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[Blueeyedwonder]

Like I say I haven't seen him much. From the way he sometimes he speaks he seems interested, others times just friendly. But all times he gets very flirty and touchy and we've ended up kissing a couple if times. Of course this may mean he just wants friends with benefits.

No I haven't asked yet. Partly because I don't want to ruin any friendship if he doesn't and I want to be abit more sure if he likes me. But I know you will probably say that well I won't get the answer until I ask him and you are probably right!

Thanks for your replies!