A fellow gay coworker called me hun, is he into me?

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OK, so what I'm getting at is just be friendly towards him back unless he starts making an obvious move on me...

Why, Tyler, are you interested in him making a move on you?

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I'm probably the only one but I'm more used to hun being used in a somewhat condescending or dismissive manner.

Something to do with age or experience differences, to my mind, Brian... so it could be construed as somewhat condescending. I don't use it that way, though.

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Wait! I've got it! He has a speech defect and is unable to pronounce the letter K.

Now, THAT, LJay, is funny!!!! :biggrin:

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I feel like that's used more in a passive-aggressive manner:
hun, why don't you mind your own business?
Hun, the world doesn't revolve around you.
However, in context like this it's not offensive:
Hun, how are you today?
Have a nice day, hun.
I didn't get a negative vibe. I took it as friendly but I wasn't sure if it was too friendly...

I think (older) friendly, Tyler.
And I don't think it's because a speech defect doesn't allow him to pronounce Gs.

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so about a week ago i came out to this openly gay coworker for advice and whatnot... Anyhow i noticed ever since then he has been acting friendlier towards me like talking to me more, more active on my facebook page, etc. Thought it was just due to me coming out and feeling a connection because we're both gay...
This guy is 10 years older then me, has a partner, i'm not attracted to him and i don't believe in dating coworkers because it just adds drama and makes the work environment uncomfortable...
However, recently, he messaged me on facebook and we talked for a little bit. Fair enough. However he ended the conversation with gotta go to bed, good night, hun (he has never called me that before) and added a blushing face. Is it me or is he testing waters?
I don't know what to do because maybe i'm freaking out over nothing or maybe he's into me and thus i don't want to accidentally play with his feelings by giving him the wrong impression...
I hate hurting people's feelings so how do i bring it up with him without making it like we can never talk again or something?

yes !!!!!!!!!!!!!!