01-23-2015, 11:31 PM
So, a guy that I don't know very well has asked me to go on a date tomorrow. Problem is, I think I've been overthinking to the extreme so I guess I'd like to hear some rational thoughts on this.
Basically the problem is that I know from myself that I am just very naive when it comes to dating. I'll give an example to put that in perspective: a few months ago I was on a date with a guy that lived on the same campus as me, just in a different building. He said something like 'oh, I've never been to that building. Could you show me around your apartment for a few minutes before I head home?' Yes, I took that seriously and never did it cross my mind what his actual intentions were, that's how bad the naivety is haha. He was a very decent guy that didn't misuse it though, but it did make me a bit paranoid afterwards. I mean, what if he had been a 'bad guy' after all?
Anyway, this is sort of bothering me for tomorrow. We are going to the beach, which is quite a busy place on Saturday so that's good. A few hours ago the guy started texting about skinny dipping, which made me feel sort of uncomfortable and I just kind of laughed it off but now it won't leave my mind because I get insecure that I'm being too naive again about this comment.. Is he just being flirty, is he serious, is he joking, should I be worried and extra cautious, yeah I'm going way too far into this.
What does it sound like to you guys? Am I being paranoid or would it be naive not to think like this?
Basically the problem is that I know from myself that I am just very naive when it comes to dating. I'll give an example to put that in perspective: a few months ago I was on a date with a guy that lived on the same campus as me, just in a different building. He said something like 'oh, I've never been to that building. Could you show me around your apartment for a few minutes before I head home?' Yes, I took that seriously and never did it cross my mind what his actual intentions were, that's how bad the naivety is haha. He was a very decent guy that didn't misuse it though, but it did make me a bit paranoid afterwards. I mean, what if he had been a 'bad guy' after all?
Anyway, this is sort of bothering me for tomorrow. We are going to the beach, which is quite a busy place on Saturday so that's good. A few hours ago the guy started texting about skinny dipping, which made me feel sort of uncomfortable and I just kind of laughed it off but now it won't leave my mind because I get insecure that I'm being too naive again about this comment.. Is he just being flirty, is he serious, is he joking, should I be worried and extra cautious, yeah I'm going way too far into this.
What does it sound like to you guys? Am I being paranoid or would it be naive not to think like this?