Trouble Achieving Orgasm With Guy I Like

[Thaguy33]

All,

Thank you for the replies. To clarify a bit: I am not inexperienced with sex! I am 31 and have been sexually active since I was 20. I don't have a medical problem, I can 'shoot' easily when masturbating watching porn, and generally when having sex with people who I am not romantically interested in. Someone mentioned a 'mental blockage' - that seems to be what I'm feeling, but I don't know what to do about it or why its there. I really love everything about this guy including the sex.

[Rareboy]

I've been there. Some times, the more I connected with a guy...the harder it was to reach orgasm.

You just need to try different things and then get yourself to relax, relax, relax.

I've had many times as a bottom where I had a porn star finish...my guy would just keep fucking me or fingering my ass while I finished myself off over a period of up to an hour.

Sometimes, I think the pressure is to come at the same time or just after your partner in order to declare the sex done and good. It can be more leisurely.

[princealbertofb]

All,

Thank you for the replies. To clarify a bit: I am not inexperienced with sex! I am 31 and have been sexually active since I was 20. I don't have a medical problem, I can 'shoot' easily when masturbating watching porn, and generally when having sex with people who I am not romantically interested in. Someone mentioned a 'mental blockage' - that seems to be what I'm feeling, but I don't know what to do about it or why its there. I really love everything about this guy including the sex.

Of course all your pipes are working splendidly. You're a young man in his prime. No reason why things shouldn't work, but you're setting the bar too high, and you need to just lower your expectations a tiny bit and give yourself time to enjoy this man's presence and his charm. I'd say you're "overwhelmed"... not an uncommon feeling when you're in love. As I said before, if you are worried about it, talk to your doctor about it, if not just wait it out, and make sure HE knows that it's not because of anything he's not doing right.