I have Asperger syndrome and my boyfriend is an HSP

[Cuddly]

I thought the symptom of aspergers was that you couldn't imagine how what you do or say will affect those you do/say it to.
Assuming that understanding is correct, alot of the issues seem understandable. Furthermore a guy with aspergers would be incompatible with sensitive people who do not possess the ability to suck it up, when you say something cruel.

Pretty creepy that you boyfriend stalked you on here. I wish (based on you post and his) that he could give you some elbow space.

[Rareboy]

I'm calling bullshit guys.

We're being trolled by a bi-polar schizoid sock puppet....

Totally. But I agree. Toxic.

[East]

Assuming this is true...and the past posts are true....there is a toxic element to this relationship.....

..and that normally involves two...not one...toxic people....

So...you need to find out what is drawing you to a toxic relationship and what you bring to the table. There is at least a part of you that is drawn to this and instead of figuring out what to do about any particular situation...spend the same amount of time figuring out what draws the moth to the flame...

You have a role here...figure out what that role is...

If you don't do that...it won't matter if you leave him or stay with him because you will likely attract a similar situation....

It is even possible for one or both toxic people to transcend and evolve from their bullshit....but you have to understand the bullshit in order to overcome it...

[Lexington]

Well, as one person once pointed out, the best thing about a dysfunctional relationship is that it pulls two dysfunctional people out of the dating pool.

Lex

[MikeW]

Well, as one person once pointed out, the best thing about a dysfunctional relationship is that it pulls two dysfunctional people out of the dating pool.

Lex

Seriously…. apparently they deserve one another.

[Pyromancer]

HSP is not an actual accepted diagnosis. but even if it were...a diagnosis is not an excuse for bad behavior. A diagnosis is a piece of information that defines a problem or illness. A diagnosis tells you what you need to work on. For example --- I have a diagnosis of alcoholism. This IS NOT a free pass for being shit-faced and drooling all the time. Once I accepted that diagnosis, I started working toward changing and controlling my behavior. It doesn't sound like your BF is doing that - he's using the dubious diagnosis to excuse his very inappropriate behavior.

You mentioned that he said that maybe you should find a new BF . Sadly, that may be the best piece of advice that you get.