Am I being too sensitive?

[Albie]

I agree with the rest. This just seems like a bad idea that has the potential to blow up in your face.

[rroepcke]

I agree that this has the potential to blow up in my face. So...I got home and had a conversation with my SO about this - he said 'sure, that's fine' I asked him to pass on to the guy that while I am willing to maybe grab a beer with him on the odd occasion that I don't feel comfortable with him living in the same house as us.

Two days later (today) while I was at work I got a text from my SO saying 'what should I say to the guy, he has asked why he can't live with us.' I told him to be honest and say that we think it's not a great idea because of past issues. My SO apparently did this.

When I picked him up from work today I casually asked in the car what the response was - he wouldn't tell me. I thought this was odd so I pushed for it - saying things like we need to ensure that we have honest open communication, especially in the case of this one guy given their past. He got very angry with me and wouldn't speak with me for over two hours, no matter what I did. The only thing he finally said was that we won't have to worry about him being in our lives anymore.

I'm not sure what this means, I wish he would tell me what has been said or why we won't be seeing him anymore. I am very inquisitive and have a tendency to want to know everything and I understand that can be annoying - Do you think I should push to maybe see the messages or whether I should let it rest? I dunno!

[East]

^^^ You are 75% there...but do push for open communication....it is so important....

Try not to have any anger or 'tude...and maybe explain why having open communication is important. Think of some things you aren't as open about as you should be and give him examples so it doesn't become just something "he" is "doing wrong"

Maybe get him to tell you as a friend versus a partner...set the tone....

[Borg69]

I'm betting he threw you under the bus and blamed you...

[Darius]

Absolutely everything about this sounds ominous. Everything.

[rroepcke]

[MENTION=21075]Borg69[/MENTION] I asked him to tell the truth, which was that I've said no and the reasons behind it - I don't care for this guys opinion of me, I think he deserves to see some form of punishment or at the least the feeling of a consequence for being a filthy little slut, just as my SO had to deal with in the months following the initial incident.

This morning my SO told me what was said - After my SO had told him the reasons why he couldn't stay with us the other guy said ' well if that's how it is then your relationship can't be very strong' among other nasty things.

Now I feel like everything is a bit rocky, all of our past arguments and issues have been because of this one guy - I have brought up in conversation as to whether my SO sees any point in having this guy in his life anymore as he is the root cause of most of our issues. He is afraid of losing friends because he doesn't have many but I don't know if I want to continue in on this relationship if I'm going to constantly have the threat/thought of this guy looming around all the time.