Cheating partner

[jbizzle]

Hi guys please I need help am soo stuck here, I just found out that while am at work my partner has been sleeping with other guys for cash and its been going on for a while now. I love him but realm don't know if there's a way to get my head around it. Any advice?

[Lexington]

Welcome to GS!

Well, what do you want? Do you want to leave the relationship? Or do you want to just hope you can get him to quit? The first one is (on paper) simple, the other one a lot less so.

Lex

[Pyromancer]

So yeah...that's the thing...can you get your head around it and come to terms with it? IDK. just me...but I think I could deal more easily if my BF cheated because of some huge, passionate attraction instead of him turning out to be a rentboy/escort/whatever the fuck...I mean, I'd kick him to the curb whatever the reason...and it wouldn't be about the sex, but about the lying...Obviously, no one can tell you what to do...

So...advice? Talk to him, try to understand why he's doing it and whether he's willing to stop...and go with your instincts, trust your gut...

[East]

My advice...find out your HIV status before you have sex again...and if you want to forgive him and stay with him...find out his as well...

After that...it all depends on who you are and what is acceptable in a relationship for you.

Did you find out accidentally or did he tell you? Did he promise to be faithful to you?

You say you love him so you want to wrap your head around it...but...does he love you?

[meridannight]

a lot of information has been left out.... like -- how long have you been together? how old either of you is? etc etc. why is he sleeping around for cash? work problems? he wants to be a male hooker? what? the whole back story and all the other relevant facts.

[Bricg1970]

How long has he been doing it, is it an addiction?, HIV is important. If you are not positive

[Cridders88]

Unfortunately, only you can decide where to go from here. Do you feel you can forgive his deceit, even in time? You definitely need to talk to him about it, and find out why he's doing it. It sounds from your post that you are hurt by his actions, so you've then got to decide whether you can trust him to stop. Then you can decide whether you indeed can get your head around the fact that he has been doing what he's doing in the first place.

[Borg69]

If it's for money he isn't emotionally involved... some people would take some comfort in that.

How much is he making at his new hobby? Is he sharing the wealth?

[jbizzle]

My advice...find out your HIV status before you have sex again...and if you want to forgive him and stay with him...find out his as well...





After that...it all depends on who you are and what is acceptable in a relationship for you.





Did you find out accidentally or did he tell you? Did he promise to be faithful to you?





You say you love him so you want to wrap your head around it...but...does he love you?

Your right he didn't tell me I found out. That's another thing making it more difficult. He has begged cried and done everything. I always knew something was very wrong right from the beginning. We've Been together for over a year now. And he said he did it because his family was in need and there was alot of pressure on him from them. Am so scared now to check my status so I ask him to check his cause he brought this upon us. So I think its right he does

[jbizzle]

If it's for money he isn't emotionally involved... some people would take some comfort in that.

How much is he making at his new hobby? Is he sharing the wealth?

Lol he said he was doing it for the money that his parents were in need and that there was alot of pressure on him from them. He hid every single dime he had I still had to do every thing financially at home I run a business and because of him I got a second job cause he could get any. Am out for 14 hours in the week days. Working my ass off so he could have a better life and he's done this in return I don't if I can trust him. We go weeks without being intimate cause he's never in the mood. Only to find out the real reason behind it