yousir Wrote:The worst behaviour comes from those who should know better. colleagues, subordinates, equals and superior.
I agree with this 1000%. My experience working with adults with developmental disabilities was all positive, sometimes exhausting on an emotional level, but wholly satisfying. However, my direct superior was a damaged person who belittled and condescended and shamed the consumers for her own sense of power. I went to her superior three separate times during my time with her and explained what I saw and how inappropriate I felt she behaved. I tried to convince my co-workers to do the same thing because I knew they agreed with my feelings on the matter, but they always chickened out. Nothing was ever done because at the end of the day our program produced positive results (from the higher ups perspective). They didn't see the day to day.
It drove me crazy. I felt completely powerless and became very sad to watch the emotional abuse occur. I became highly anxious, the skin on my palms began peeling away, I developed severe hypochondria. I convinced myself to stick around because I felt I could do some good by providing a caring presence to the place, but eventually it became too much for me and I decided to leave. The truth is I wasn't doing any good there, but I still feel a twinge of guilt when I think about the whole thing.
I think those types of professions are similar to the profession of policing. It draws the best and the worst types of people; people who want to help and people who want to control. I was neither, honestly. I stumbled into the job but ended up really loving the work itself.
It's a wonderful occupation Unfrind (in spite of my kind of cynical complaining), when you have the right kind of people to support you. I wish you a lot of luck!