Sexting

[Anocxu]

I know I know...I'm much too desirable for my own good aren't I?

Well I did some snooping around..
Found your pics on Facebook..

You are definitely a "looker".



You sexy beast!!!

[Cobalt]

I didn't know the camera was on...I hadn't had a chance to do my makeup yet...

[ShiftyNJ]

That's what I was thinking in my mind too. Now looking back on it I'm more like

Bring it on bitch.

Is that Gene Hackman?

[baba23]

I have a question relates to this topic

what do you guys think about your bf/ partner sexting with other people ?

I painfully found out my bf sexting around with lots of guys when we're apart from a long distance relationship, and not just regular flirting around but actual sexting with dick/ass pics and wanking videos. Was that counted as cheating ?

[Anocxu]

I have a question relates to this topic

what do you guys think about your bf/ partner sexting with other people ?

I painfully found out my bf sexting around with lots of guys when we're apart from a long distance relationship, and not just regular flirting around but actual sexting with dick/ass pics and wanking videos. Was that counted as cheating ?

Well..
A popular answer would probably be .. "Yes That would be considered cheating "..If you are not in an open relationship then he definitely crossed the line..

Then what's more confusing is ..you aren't sure what the bundaries of your relationship are..

Tell us about your relationship
It might give us a better understanding.

How did you two meet?
How far along is the relationship?
How often do you see each other?

[baba23]

Well..
A popular answer would probably be .. "Yes That would be considered cheating "..If you are not in an open relationship then he definitely crossed the line..

Then what's more confusing is ..you aren't sure what the bundaries of your relationship are..

Tell us about your relationship
It might give us a better understanding.

How did you two meet?
How far along is the relationship?
How often do you see each other?

okay, here is my story, and sorry for my english, it's not that good tho
mhhh..
it was may 2014 when we started talking on growlr when he was planning his trip to Vietnam, then we decided to meet first time in August 2014, we spent a week travelling together before he came back to the UK, and he asked me out to be his bf in September 2014 so technically we've been in this relationship for over a year, yup, a 5000 miles and 7 hours different relationship

we have met 2 more time, this year April (17days) and recently August/september (45days) as my study visa at the uk got refused.

And as apart of our relationship, we try not to used dating app as a commitment to the other. But when we met this year August, I found out he has been on scruff for ages flirting around with guys, and even worse he sexted with few guys on whatsapp like a month before we meet, sending/saying things to other guys that he shouldn't when he's in a relationship - not an open one !

I know that he didn't physically cheat on me, but made me feel insecure since that moment of truth, can I trust him anymore?

[Anocxu]

I understand clearly..
Here are a few things that will continue to harvest ~>Chaos unless they are sorted.

All boundaries in detail need to be discussed. ..

Dating and hookup applications are addictive and extremely distracting . .
If you two have not addressed a decision for him to stop and delete these apps.. then things will most certainly be chaotic.

You two have to make a decision regarding the distance.. or be clever about communicating. . Skype several times a day?..

If his needs are not being met he should tell you..
If he is not actually hooking up, but he's tossing around his poon and peen on these apps ..
It will most certainly drain your trust in him...

Be honest with yourself regarding the circumstances. .
In your heart.. do you consider this to be a healthy relationship?
You two are not spending enough time together..you seem to be willing to cope with the distance. . He is not doing so well...

If you two can have an honest talk about where you both stand and what it will take to make things practical and healthy.. You can give it a fair second chance..
He needs to know his flirtatious behavior is not harmless. .
Your boyfriend is addicted to "the feeling of being desired.."
Flirting totally gets him off..

Can you trust him?
Not at this time..

Time for a serious lovers heart to heart...

[Stevefs]

okay, here is my story, and sorry for my english, it's not that good tho
mhhh..
it was may 2014 when we started talking on growlr when he was planning his trip to Vietnam, then we decided to meet first time in August 2014, we spent a week travelling together before he came back to the UK, and he asked me out to be his bf in September 2014 so technically we've been in this relationship for over a year, yup, a 5000 miles and 7 hours different relationship

we have met 2 more time, this year April (17days) and recently August/september (45days) as my study visa at the uk got refused.

And as apart of our relationship, we try not to used dating app as a commitment to the other. But when we met this year August, I found out he has been on scruff for ages flirting around with guys, and even worse he sexted with few guys on whatsapp like a month before we meet, sending/saying things to other guys that he shouldn't when he's in a relationship - not an open one !

I know that he didn't physically cheat on me, but made me feel insecure since that moment of truth, can I trust him anymore?

I would take it as cheating. It doesn't matter if they make physical contact - they are having remote sex with another person. Cheating includes more than just physical contact.

However, these kinds of things need to be discussed between you two. Maybe he thought he wasn't cheating and thought it was O.K. to do.

[baba23]

I understand clearly..
Here are a few things that will continue to harvest ~>Chaos unless they are sorted.

All boundaries in detail need to be discussed. ..

Dating and hookup applications are addictive and extremely distracting . .
If you two have not addressed a decision for him to stop and delete these apps.. then things will most certainly be chaotic.

You two have to make a decision regarding the distance.. or be clever about communicating. . Skype several times a day?..

If his needs are not being met he should tell you..
If he is not actually hooking up, but he's tossing around his poon and peen on these apps ..
It will most certainly drain your trust in him...

Be honest with yourself regarding the circumstances. .
In your heart.. do you consider this to be a healthy relationship?
You two are not spending enough time together..you seem to be willing to cope with the distance. . He is not doing so well...

If you two can have an honest talk about where you both stand and what it will take to make things practical and healthy.. You can give it a fair second chance..
He needs to know his flirtatious behavior is not harmless. .
Your boyfriend is addicted to "the feeling of being desired.."
Flirting totally gets him off..

Can you trust him?
Not at this time..

Time for a serious lovers heart to heart...

Thank you so much for these kind words. Things happen exactly like you say.
We do talk to each others everyday on Facebook messenger, video call sometimes

It's true that he has needs which I don't really like (kinky ones)
We just had a major fight about this.
Here are things he honestly say to me

About flirting/sexting because he want to see guys willy and like you say "feeling of being desired" - and I can see it will cause physical cheating someday, and also yes, lots of distraction.
As I mentioned about being faithful and committed, he said he CANT promise, as he does want to have sex with other guys, just "unlikely can happen" but there might "posibility" because he does want sex. :/

We were talking about a compromise situation, that I will join him with his kinkiness in return he will stop using those apps and PROMISE will not sleep with some else.
Is that a smart move ? am I too easy ?

[baba23]

I would take it as cheating. It doesn't matter if they make physical contact - they are having remote sex with another person. Cheating includes more than just physical contact.

However, these kinds of things need to be discussed between you two. Maybe he thought he wasn't cheating and thought it was O.K. to do.

Thank you, there are things about us in my new post, you can see.