my boyfriend discovered i have a profile in gayromeo

[Baslero]

Hi guys, since 6 months im in a steady relationship with a guy. Everything's great, he's the man of my life, i love him and im completely committed to this relationship , devoted and faithful. im so into him that I can't even masturbate when his not with me, i just can't get an erection...
The time im not with him im just thinking about him, or shopping for us or cooking us dinner...
I was afraid such a commitment on the relationship could make him lose interest on me... I tried to force myself to spend some night at my place from time to time to give him some space.
When im alone i love writing short stories, mostly about gay people i met briefly..., so one of those nights, out of curiosity, i opened a profile in gayromeo and ended up chatting with several guys..., i even uploaded some pics of myself..., i kind of created a character based on me... all those conversations ended soon because i had no interest on meeting them...
Well, im getting to the point now..., yesterday my boyfriend found out i had this profile and we had a big quarrel..., he wanted me out of his life believing i had been cheating on him...I tried to explain him the whole situation but he's not completely convinced. He feels hurt and humiliated and that having been chatting with this guys i have cheated on him..., that if i had a profile there its because im searching...,
I see his point but as i said I am not searching at all..., juts the contrary..., i can't have enough of him¡¡¡..., i know I should have been chatting in healthier forums like gayspeak but i had the curiosity of going back again to gayromeo since it had been my dating forum for years..., being there having a boyfriend and not needing to date desperately guys made me feel a estrange "feeling" of superiority..., so i suppose im now paying for my arrogance...
please, guys..., i need your advice..., what do you think of what i did and what do you think about my (still) boyfriends reaction? do you see a reason for splitting here?
thank you

[kindy64]

My boyfriend and I had similar arguments.

Come clean, show him your profile, show him your chats, then DELETE the profile and the app.

After my boyfriend and I got serious, I was still using the apps just for chatting. He didn't like that I was very flirty even if I was just chatting. He also knew a lot of the guys on the apps, and didn't like hearing "hey your boyfriend was hitting on me " even when I wasn't.

So, when you talk, be honest about why you are there.

[Baslero]

My boyfriend and I had similar arguments.

Come clean, show him your profile, show him your chats, then DELETE the profile and the app.

After my boyfriend and I got serious, I was still using the apps just for chatting. He didn't like that I was very flirty even if I was just chatting. He also knew a lot of the guys on the apps, and didn't like hearing "hey your boyfriend was hitting on me " even when I wasn't.

So, when you talk, be honest about why you are there.

Thank you for your response..., I was so relieved to see there are other people who was in the same situation and I'm not the only dirty traitor for it...
I can't help wondering if it would have been considered cheating if i had gone out to a gay bar and chatted with several guys instead?

[kindy64]

I can understand being mistrustful over chatting on a hookup app, though I agree, it's not much different than going to a bar and striking up a conversation.

Of course, last time I went to a gay bar I had more in common with a motorcycle driving lesbian then probably anyone else in the bar (we ended up watching a motorcycle auction on one of the tv's and chit-chatting.)

The main thing is being honest and open if you want a complete relationship with someone.

[matty7]

well im sure you have some grovelling to do as you have dented his trust in you - its shame but gayromeo is a dating site so if I were him I'd be devastated too ...just show him you have deleted everything and make the promise not to join a dating app again , just win him back onside and treat him like the King/Queen he is it does sound like you love him to bits

[ceez]

Did he say how he found out you have a profile there? If it was just the one night then he found out a little to quickly. Not saying he is cheating, you could have been talking to someone he knows.

[IanSaysHi]

I can understand him being pissed but as others have said, offer to show him all the evidence and hopefully he should come around. It's not like he came home early and found you in a sling surrounded by 12 leather bears so all the best.

[Insertnamehere]

I for one I'm interested in knowing how exactly did he find out about the profile.

That aside, the solution is easy: show him the chats! It shouldn't be a problem if things are as you say and you had no intention to cheat, so that would help to present some evidence.

Also, you'd do well to delete the account there, for all intents and purposes it seems that you are in a commited relationshio now.

[Baslero]

I for one I'm interested in knowing how exactly did he find out about the profile.

That aside, the solution is easy: show him the chats! It shouldn't be a problem if things are as you say and you had no intention to cheat, so that would help to present some evidence.

Also, you'd do well to delete the account there, for all intents and purposes it seems that you are in a commited relationshio now.

thank guys, i showed him everything..., but he still wants me out of his life..., he said he felt betrayed anyway..., I'm really sorry..., i really love him..., you'd ask yourselves then why i was in gayromeo..., then again I've spent many years there and i guess i did it without thinking..., the situation sounds ridiculous and would be even funny if it wasn't for the outcome..., it didn't even crossed my mind to cheat on him...

[IanSaysHi]

Oh well, lesson learnt for next time. If you feel like doing this again whilst in a relationship, let your partner know you're going to do it first.