Why are you together or married?

[shykid25]

I've always been curious about why did you marry or been with your partner? How did you know they were the one? How long were you together for? Hobbies you do together?

[BlueStar]

I've always been curious about why did you marry or been with your partner? How did you know they were the one?

I would not ask these questions if I were you, they will remain mostly unanswered and anyone who is currently in love knows why.

I am tired... I miss someone.

[TwisttheLeaf]

I'm in love, and not at all sure why [MENTION=21111]BlueStar[/MENTION] says someone in love wouldn't answer. Maybe the fear another will come and steal their partner? It's the only reason I can think, and I have no fear of that. Gideon is 100% obsessed and.... well, I just can't see that happening.

SO.... on to the questions....

why did you marry or been with your partner? How long were you together for?

Although we aren't married, [MENTION=20938]Gideon[/MENTION] and I have been together for 8 years now and counting. I'm with him because I love him. Because we're good together, reinforcing each other in the face of their weaker parts, and strengthening the stronger ones. The dynamic between us works for us, and with every day that passes we learn more about each other and our bond grows.

How did you know they were the one? Hobbies you do together?

I took some convincing. Gideon apparently knew right away. I, on the other hand, had a bit of resistance to the idea at first. Primarily, this was because of two reasons. 1) I'd never wanted to be in a relationship. I was happy with occasional stranger sex mixed in with some friends with benefits arrangements. Which leads in to reason 2) I enjoyed my independence. I didn't want anyone thinking they had the right to control and/or direct my life. I believed if I was in a relationship, that's exactly what would happen.

That isn't what happened, and over time I came to realize it wasn't going to happen... and that relationships aren't that scary after all. Or, at least that a relationship with him isn't. During that time, love grew... and grew.. and grew. And here we are 8 years later.

As for hobbies, we do a lot of interactive storytelling together (roleplay via writing). I occasionally work on teaching him gardening and plant care, photography, and sharing pictures. Cooking and sharing meal ideas, recipes, etc. And, sometimes we've played games together as well. He's far more of a gamer than I am, though, and aside from these activities, we don't really share many 'hobbies' in common with each other.

I'm sure Gid will pitch in with his side of things when he has the time, as well.

[Gideon]

*Points up to Twist and grins* Look at him...who -wouldn't- choose him? He's gorgeous, he's brilliant, he's creative and talented...and he's the strongest man I know.

Having him in my life had made me a better person and I love that he can make me -want- to be a better person. I love that he's -proud- to be mine. And hell we won't even get ME started cause we all know I'd be here all day on that topic.

But in a nutshell? He's amazing. I knew even before I ever actually talked to him one on one or even really in a capacity that wasn't part of our rpg (in character). Just watching him write, for me was a beautiful experience. I knew from day one that I wanted him and once I had him and realized just how -happy- he made me? I wasn't letting go.

As he said, I'm not sure we have alot in common hobby wise...hell we're almost polar opposites personality wise(for example he is organized to the point of obsession, I can't keep track of my car keys half the time) but it works for us...beautifully. His hobbies and passions have become my interest simply because it's something that makes him happy, so I want to know more about it, yeah? Maybe that's why it works...he's always teaching me new things. Always surprising and delighting me.

[mrex]

we are so, so similar, like same things, think about the same ideas at the same time... do the same things and so on... and the best part: he is my personal driver - so i can be just sitting there, nagging and telling him how to drive slower

[InbetweenDreams]

I've always been curious about why did you marry or been with your partner? How did you know they were the one? How long were you together for? Hobbies you do together?

Got to make this one quick before I go to work...

Well I don't think anyone knows for sure, I think just clicks into place.... I think someone mentioned the stages of love...I guess I need to read into that myself lol

Hobbies....man if I could find someone who's interested, for real, in the stuff I enjoy...at least half of it I'd be thrilled. At the same time I don't think you want someone who likes EVERYTHING you like, but can still appreciate or tolerate the things you enjoy...

I'm single...and I just realized I'm gay Liz Lemon...

[azulai]

I've always been curious about why did you marry or been with your partner? How did you know they were the one? How long were you together for? Hobbies you do together?

My bf and I just got engaged after being together for 5 years. Early on I would describe it as "we clicked," I saw his heart, I felt secure, he made me laugh, and we shared some dreams and goals. But in some ways, I look back and realize I had no clue about what it takes to make a relationship work; it was just gut/love/lust.

Now after living with each other and weathering a few storms, there is no one I would want to battle future storms with but him. There are areas where we balance each other, and others where we challenge each other. And, I need that. He makes me better. We both had to grow up in some aspects of our personality to make it work, though. The love is on a deeper level, intertwined with admiration and respect.

Fidelity is easy, I can't imagine being with someone else, sexually. Neither of us watches porn anymore. lol. We're very in tune with each other's body. There's a heightened sense of pleasure and play in that for us.

As far as hobbies. We have some very different interests but respect, listen about, and encourage the other. We run/exercise and play basketball together, cook and search out recipes together, wander around farmers markets, birdwatching, science museums, sidewalk art shows, antique shops. We like to read books together, and discuss them.