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Hi guys~~ I'm new here and need a little advice
#1
Hello guys you can call me Levi and obviously thats not my real name but lets go with it shall we?
So I'm a bisexual female and in early 20's atm, and I think I always suspect that since high school. So it doesnt surprise me when I ended up dating my best friend.
Anyway she isnt the first person I date but she is the first same sex partner I ever had. We have dated for more than two years now. We love each other and very happy together. But I'm wondering tough, does a 'top' and 'bottom' role important in same sex relationship? You see, I'm a very petite person so people ussually treated me carefully but that makes me grow up independet and I really hate when people think I cant do anything. Now my girlfriend on the other hand is quite an androgyn and tall girl. She looks really strong I think that is the first thing that atracts me to her, however her personality is so much more feminine than mine and I think its very cute. So just like that I take care after her and becoming the 'top' or what my friends said as 'being the guy' (silly, I know). I love to treated her like a girl and when it comes to sex I enjoy being the dominant one.
Honestly at first I dont think its important at all. I enjoy it. But there are some times where I want to be pestered and treated like a girl by her but she couldnt do that or its more like she didnt want to do that. When I asked her to she always said that she couldnt treated me like a girl because my aura is too dominat to beat. Especially when it comes to sex its really hard to make her want to 'do' me.
Tbh I'm still quite new to this same sex relationship things so there are still many things I need to learn. I get it if she didnt want to be the top but most of the time it makes me feels like I'm not attractive enough for her.
I need some advice guys
And sorry if its really long
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#2
Welcome to GaySpeak, @Levi, I hope you find some answers to your queries. We don't have many women on the site at the moment and so I'm not sure who will understand the dynamics of your problem (in terms of sharing a gender). Good luck finding your answer. I don't think it's important to label your position in your couple, just to continue enjoying each other's presence and whatever behaviour fits your purpose. If she likes you being a bit more assertive, then that's fine. If you like the fact that she's tall and still feminine, that's fine too, don't you think?
Take care,
PA
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#3
Just do what comes naturally and feels right/good. Don't worry about labels, roles, defining positions, or trying to live up to someone else's expectations of what they think a relationship is or should be.
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