I am married to my dream man..been with him for 30 years....
I have never spoken a bad word about him to anyone in the entire 30 years...I never would...we are both insanely loyal friends first and foremost....
I love him because he is a beautiful sweet and kind man who is very intense and a bit of an introvert....
I love spending every minute I can with him...he is the only man I calmed down for and let him see who I was....and I like the way he looks at me....
He sees me...very rare quality...
Even after 30 years...i still get a rush when I see him walking toward me....took me many years but the second I understood what unconditional love and experienced it...I was changed forever instantly...like this secret garden opens up and you wonder why you never knew it existed before....he brought this out in me because he had the capacity for it already..I had to learn...but he is the kind of guy who makes me WANT to be the best version of myself I can be....
I never looked for a lover....I looked for sex with no strings....but even with sex partners I looked for chemistry...
It isn't about looks or race for me though. I have to like the person. I think too many people focus on the external shit and then wonder what happened later in life.
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My dream man, at this point in my life... I'm not interested in a serious relationship right now. But I'll take this more seriously than to just describe a dream hook up.
If I'm describing the man I'd eventually want to settle down with, then its important that he wants to have a family eventually.
He'd have to have his own life. I'm not attracted to men who are needy, who want constant reassurance or validation, or who are too clingy. Im attracted to men who have passion, dedication, drive, ambition... and put all of those traits to working towards positive, constructive, and empowering goals. He'd have to be motivated by doing good for others - either individuals or the larger community, working for something outside of and larger than himself. Someone obsessed with their own wealth, power, or status doesn't appeal to me.
I'd want a man who had a good sense of humor. I can be too serious sometimes. Its nice to have someone who can balance that out. I also like men with curious minds. Its not about being super intelligent, its about wanting to keep learning, and to keep expanding their knowledge and experiences.
Im attracted to men with some swag, some edge. Not the whole bad boy kind of thing. More like someone who has been through stuff, learned from it, and came out a stronger person. I prefer humility over big egos. Someone who works for what they have. A guy that is successful in what he does, but doesn't forget about where hes from. I like responsibility, reliability, and someone with a strong sense of right and wrong. A man who isn't afraid to stand up for himself or others.
Physically, I like athletic men. I like men with strong, distinct features. I like guys with a clean cut, well put together kind of style. I'm most attracted to brown and black men, with dark hair and eyes. I like a physical intensity. I post enough pictures in the stud of the day thread - thats what I find attractive. If I were able to put a dream face on my dream man, I'd say Jeffery Gao, Adonis Bosso, and John Legend all are very handsome to me.
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I really don't know really.
I have different fancy people I just, but I just want someome to look after and love.
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