Boyfriend wants to watch porn together

[liveit222]

Hi guys,

Me and my boyfriend have been together for over 10 months. I love him. We also are very loyal to each other, and has made it clear that cheating on him would devastate him. I think the same. We are that close. He's helped me though so much too.

When it's come to sex, we have tried and experimented different things together too which is great... Until one day recently he told me he really wanted to watch porn together.

Hes knows that I watch it when I'm on my own, and I know he does too.

But my heart just sunk when he told me he wanted to watch it together. I thought how could we, where it's a desire to be like those in the video? I mean, it does sound kinda hot but then again I just don't like the fact it's not me he's fantasising over. Does that sound silly?

Do you think I should try it? Is it wrong? He's even admitted we could play with each other whilst doing it, but I just don't want our sex to become dependent on a porn video.

It just came as a bit of a suprise.

Nevertheless, I love him to bits. I'm just afraid that the porn is saying I'm not enough.

Thanks

[Darius]

Yeah, you are being silly. He is not saying you are not enough. If you were not enough for him he would be hiding it from you. As it is you both jack off to porn on your own and all it means is you are horny and alone. Nothing more.
Just look at it as being something playful you do together. It doesn't have to be all the time.
Show him the things in porn that really turn you on and he can do the same for you. Don't overthink it.

[liveit222]

Yeah, you are being silly. He is not saying you are not enough. If you were not enough for him he would be hiding it from you. As it is you both jack off to porn on your own and all it means is you are horny and alone. Nothing more.
Just look at it as being something playful you do together. It doesn't have to be all the time.
Show him the things in porn that really turn you on and he can do the same for you. Don't overthink it.

Thank you for the reassurance

[LJay]

Agreeing with [MENTION=21957]Darius[/MENTION].

Look at as a new way to play together. I doubt that you will become dependent on it. There is a good chance it will be fun. Thre is nothing wrong about it. It is just something different to do.

[Camfer]

There very well could be a subtext to his suggestion to watch porn together. What to do? Let him pick the video and enjoy it and him together. If he's trying to send you a message in this way, it should become apparent. Don't fret and be open and adventurous here. Doubtful your sex life will become dependent on this.

[liveit222]

There very well could be a subtext to his suggestion to watch porn together. What to do? Let him pick the video and enjoy it and him together. If he's trying to send you a message in this way, it should become apparent. Don't fret and be open and adventurous here. Doubtful your sex life will become dependent on this.

Interesting thought - maybe he wants me to be more adventurous with him?

[princealbertofb]

I agree with [MENTION=20941]Camfer[/MENTION], it might spice your sex life a bit... maybe you think it doesn't need it, but maybe it's a way of showing each other what you both think is hot... and maybe you'll come up with some new ideas. We all know porn is different from real sex, and I'm sure you do too. I don't think you need to worry about him fantasizing over some unattainable porn star (who might not even be gay...). I think it could make your sex play just that little bit more 'edgy'.

[JisthenewK]

Your feelings are normal. Sometimes it would seem like he is comparing you to the porn star and you don't want that as porn is a fantasy and nothing more. However, you do what feels best. Sometimes, it might give you some good ideas to spice up your sex life, so I'd say give it a chance and if you don't like it, if he really cares, he'll understand. However, it's up to you and if you don't wanna do it, don't and no you aren't being silly