Reconnecting

[kai35]

So about a year ago I started talking to this guy. We hung out several times over the course of a couple months and seemed to have a pretty good connection both personally and physically. After the first time we hung out, I happened to be going on vacation in Europe and he texted me basically non-stop, which was endearing albeit a bit obnoxious as the trip was expensive and I was trying to sightsee. He told me he was very scared because he never felt this way about another guy before (only recently had acknowledged his sexuality). He even took a job up closer to where I lived and said it was to be closer to me, although I doubt this and think it was mostly to be closer to his family.

After a few weeks, he started to become much quieter. He is not out to his family (aside from, he says, one of his sisters). In fact, only a couple years ago he was engaged to a woman. He mentioned serious anxiety about his family finding out, but said he would come out if he found a relationship. Gradually, we lost touch. I attributed it to his closet issues and didn't make any other moves, also in part because I took a summer assignment out of state. From what I gathered on Facebook, he had begun dating his ex-fiancée again.

Throughout this time, we remained friends on Facebook and Snapchat. Basically, now I know he's single again (per Facebook) and I also have good reason to believe he occasionally stalks my profile (which I'm totally okay with). Even after a year, I still really like this guy and I really, really want to get in touch with him again, but I don't know how to go about it without coming off looking like a lunatic -- given we haven't talked in over a year (I'm a shy person in general). I don't even know for sure if he stopped talking to me because he lost interest or if it was because he freaked out. How would I know that and how do I talk to him without causing him to have closet anxiety like I think he had last time?

Thanks in advance.