Why can't we be honest about what we want?
07-07-2017, 02:13 PM
Hi everyone, I've been wanting to express this opinion on Facebook and the like, but whenever the topic is brought up on certain gay-themed pages, the OP gets shat on, and I don't get it. While I do understand why the topic might be offensive to some, I feel it should be ok to have a differing opinion.
Anywhoo, the topic - having relations with someone who is transgender.
Late last year, being the open-minded type, I met up with a transguy I talked to on Grindr. He had been on hormone therapy for only 9 months up to that point, and had considered himself asexual until a few months after starting it. He realized he was gay, and wanted to explore his sexuality, which I was initially happy to help explore with him.
However, the experience was very dissatisfying. Everything was sensitive on his body, like his butt and his feet, so the experience wasn't as physical as it typically is during sex for me. I was willing to vaginally penetrate him, but it wasn't working, and I felt myself getting turned off. The whole thing ended with him climaxing (I'm pretty sure multi times) using some light-up rotating dildo device. It was....weird. Part of my brain was like "cool, he's getting to experience his sexuality in an open and honest way and that's great"; the other part of my brain was like "yeah, I'm really not into this". In the following days, he would text videos of his toys rotating and hoping to get back together, but I just kept looking at that and could not bring myself to do it. Frankly, I wanted nothing to do with vaginal toys or being with a guy who....doesn't understand what it is to be a guy ("you mean cisguys can't have multi-orgasms?").
I know this will completely get me labelled a transphobe. It's silly, because I'm 100% dedicated to ending these rash of bathroom bills and for advancing trans protections across the board, in employment, education, housing, etc etc. But the thought of me going down on vagina again, whether attached to a man or a woman, does not sit well with me. I can't do it.
Anywhoo, the topic - having relations with someone who is transgender.
Late last year, being the open-minded type, I met up with a transguy I talked to on Grindr. He had been on hormone therapy for only 9 months up to that point, and had considered himself asexual until a few months after starting it. He realized he was gay, and wanted to explore his sexuality, which I was initially happy to help explore with him.
However, the experience was very dissatisfying. Everything was sensitive on his body, like his butt and his feet, so the experience wasn't as physical as it typically is during sex for me. I was willing to vaginally penetrate him, but it wasn't working, and I felt myself getting turned off. The whole thing ended with him climaxing (I'm pretty sure multi times) using some light-up rotating dildo device. It was....weird. Part of my brain was like "cool, he's getting to experience his sexuality in an open and honest way and that's great"; the other part of my brain was like "yeah, I'm really not into this". In the following days, he would text videos of his toys rotating and hoping to get back together, but I just kept looking at that and could not bring myself to do it. Frankly, I wanted nothing to do with vaginal toys or being with a guy who....doesn't understand what it is to be a guy ("you mean cisguys can't have multi-orgasms?").
I know this will completely get me labelled a transphobe. It's silly, because I'm 100% dedicated to ending these rash of bathroom bills and for advancing trans protections across the board, in employment, education, housing, etc etc. But the thought of me going down on vagina again, whether attached to a man or a woman, does not sit well with me. I can't do it.
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