[HOW TO] Learning to top..

[ScVernel]

Hello.
I'm new here and I'm hoping this forum could help.

I am a bottom, in nature. I've always thought and fantasized from the POV of a bottom. My issue is, I would like to "learn" to become versatile. As I'm writing this, I'm imagining getting something like Fleshjack, or a 'holed' toy, may serve my purposes tremendously. But, to continue, I have attempted topping less than a handful of times and have nearly always begun losing my erection within the moments of insertion.
'This' understandable to me as, if I'm not directly stimulating {myself}|being stimulated, I lose erections very quickly. And, not being turned on naturally imagining myself topping, the loss of erection is no surprise. Which lead me to try Viagra on 2 occasions. But in neither situation was there any known effect, to my penis nor my 'drive'.

I'd love to hear from someone who's made the addition, or Switch, from being a total bottom into becoming comfortable being versatile, or even into total Topism (I'm sure that must've happened at least once in history).

[ChadCoxRox]

Hello.
I'm new here and I'm hoping this forum could help.

I'd love to hear from someone who's made the addition, or Switch, from being a total bottom into becoming comfortable being versatile, or even into total Topism (I'm sure that must've happened at least once in history).

I thought this way a few times back in the day but learned from being in a trusting relationship that all my mental and physical tricks toward this goal were nothing compared to open, safe intimacy with a trusted partner. When that partner is in on the quest, even if they are not open to bottoming themselves, it makes the growth SO much more real and clear. I'm not saying you have to have the love of your life or even monogamy. I'm saying the idea that I am now much more versatile came not from the hole at the end of my arm or wedged between the mattress and box springs. LOL It same from a man moaning in my ear and pulling on my rear.

[eastofeden]

For me - it is all about the chemistry.

Maybe there is a certain type of man or personality you could top.

You might have some anxiety built up about it as well and that alone can be a problem - or THE problem.