[Rant] Serious misinformation about Anal Sex and top Size

[jacques_roland]

Hi,

I wanted to get this off my chest and hear from others on anal sex vs dick size.  In a lot of media (Porn, Movies, etc.), dick size has been heavily glorified and we have a lot of expressions even in English that suggest having a bigger penis is better/more manly.  

In my actual sexual experience (10+ years from teenager to 30s), nothing could be more from the truth when it comes to penetrative Anal Sex: smaller is better.  I am on the slightly below average size for what it's worth.  

From my dozens of partners (short term, long term, etc.) over the years and myself being experienced/enjoying both sides (Top/Bottom), I've come to conclude that Anal Sex is really best with smaller/average sized penises (and most enjoyable for me if it's on the smaller side to be honest when I'm bottoming).  

I don't want to discount others' experience/preferences but I think most people are outliers who actually enjoy being penetrated by a large or abnormally large penis.  It takes a ton of prep work + lubrication, the top has to be even more careful, some positions simply are too uncomfortable, it's much less flexible on timing, etc.  To me it's more of a curiosity/challenge to bottom for someone with a larger penis and some could find that a turn on because of how intense or how much preparation is required to do it safely.  It's not something I could or enjoy regularly and I think Porn might be a healthier way to get your large penis "kink" satisfied.  

What's my experience/arguments here?  

• when discussing dick size, almost all of my past partners have admitted a preference for smaller.  No one has ever been "disappointed" when we see each other naked the first time.  
  
• you can have have anal sex more "randomly" / ad-hoc / with little prep if you're bottoming for a smaller top.  Feels a lot more natural without needing to do tons of lube/prep work or feel like you have to "permanently" relax your ass.  
  
• I've been able to top and bottom with little/no lube (using pre-cum/saliva/sweat) and enjoy both (as well as my partners can enjoy bottoming with little or no lube).  It's a different feeling and I think would been painful and/or extremely challenging if your partner is just too big.  
  

I don't mean to offend anyone who has a larger than average penis, or does have a size preference.  I am turned on though by bottoms with larger penises.  I just wanted to share my experience, which 100% contradicts what someone would think based on social media / watching Porn / movies, etc.  There are a lot of "outspoken" size queens, and I feel a lot of those newer to the community think "bigger is better" so I wanted to share a perspective grounded in my actual life experience from someone who is "normal"/"average."

[Friend Benies]

I haven’t had much experience to be truthfully honest, but the few times I have, One was average sized and he was very patient with me and I really enjoyed him. He took my anal virginity and I loved it. The one large guy I just gave oral to was not as enjoyable as the smaller several guys for just oral. I would agree with you and say it holds too for oral.