Hi,well although I wasn't affected by the workings of society in the period you came out,I do remember exactly the immense sense of RELIEF more than anything else when I came out to my mother first of all.I think mum's first is definitely the way to go!It meant so much to me and we were from then on able to share so much more of my life,including the sides which had previously remained in the obscure ie.dating and such.I will,by the by,never stop to be thankful to those who made being gay today much less of a problem and a negatively stigmatised aspect of life.I didn't help to bring this about,due to my age,I merely benefited and that means such a lot.We're not there yet,but I think it is getting easier to come out now and be accepted as part of mainstream society.Oh how ideological I am sounding I know,but hey it's got to be said.
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what it is i try and tell yous.becase i am same like gay men.i am same not diffrint to them im proper gayman aswel.if somone says you not alloed to be gay i am becoase it it nt upto them it is me.
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You are completely right Joseph, it is up to you to know whether you are gay or not... the fact that some people don't believe you just shows that they are ignorant. It's a shame that some people don't realise that this is an option that nature has added to the palette of sexualities and sexual patterns on this planet. After all if other animals can act with gay tendencies, why shouldn't humans be the same?
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coming out was not a super big deal for me. After I came out I gained more confidence than before. I came out to a group of friends and when I felt safe. I'v not got A LOT of friends around the school and around town. When I was younger I was the shyest kid in the class. And now I got to any pride events that there are down here and I'v been to a queer event in Nelson. And have got a few people the create a QSA (Queer and Straight Alliance) at my school.
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I would really like to be able to come out to my parents because it would make so many things so much easier but the side effects are kinda not worth it at the moment. For those who i have told it made my relationship with them a lot better because i don't have to pretend to be something i'm not and have the freedom to behave how i want around them. I am a fairly masculine person on the outside but i love it when i can express my feminine side with people. ah...i long for the day the closet doors are opened.
