How do you guys (and gals) keep a long-distance relationship going? Or what is the best advice you have on keeping things going when a couple can't be together?
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I dont know. Unfortunately mines didn't work out. Mainly coz i couldn't do the whole long distance thing......
However, PA and MARSH are the perfect example of one that does work, speak to them!!
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Tough one, this, because everyone's different. For me some of the important things are:
Love - he's got to be worth the trouble.
Talk about everything. Time's too precious to play stupid games. Find out what each needs from the other.
Trust - if I couldn't trust him or he couldn't trust me it wouldn't last.
Accept we both have lives to get on with when we're not together.
Keep in touch - text messages, online chatting, telephone calls, e-mails, carrier pigeon ... just get a message to each other daily and speak as often as possible.
Make a plan. I never leave him without knowing when I'll see him again.
Not an exhaustive list, but I hope it helps a little. Do you have particular concerns?
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How long is the distance that seperates you too ?
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[COLOR="Purple"]Have you been in a relationship long?
It seems those depressing feelings are there for the first year or so until you get into the rhythm of (any) relationships.[/COLOR]
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we've been together since november of '08. so a little over a year. I had huge problems with anxiety and depression during the first couple months, then he had problems with depression a while after I started to get used to it. I'm not sure that either of us is totally better, but it's not as bad as it was at first.
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My journey of car, train, train, bus, plane, train, tram, bus, walk generally takes about nine or ten hours door to door. The quickest time has been about seven and a quarter hours. I make the trip at least once a month. Being self-employed I have some liberty to block out the second week of each month when I will not take any work in England.
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90 minutes is not that long to travel, is it? I used to travel an hour to work twice a day, 5 times a week. Why do you only get together every 4 to 6 weeks? How long do you spend together when you meet? Have you been on holiday together? How much holiday time can you take off work?
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about an hour and a half's drive apart. not too far, but we only see each other every 4-6 weeks. the main concern is not feeling too lonely, we both suffer from varying levels of depression when we're apart. we do talk every day, and text, chat, and it helps a lot. but we still feel sad.
