Parents

[TheProphet]

couple months, maybe

I don't neccessarily have a cold relationship with my parents, it's actually quite good just kind of avoids the issue of my sexuality. it's not so much that neither of us wants to talk about it than neither of us wants to be the one to bring it up

[drocko17]

Does your dad know? I'd suggest you to talk about your sexuality, be brave and bring it up, you need it. But tell me, are you quite sure you are bisexual, do you already feel identified and glad with that or your still a bit insecure?

[TheProphet]

yeah I'm sure, I mean I've thought about it a lot and I know I'm definately bi

I don't think my dad does know but I'll maybe talk to him when I feel the time is right like on a weekend or something so he's not just got in from work

[drocko17]

*got tired of that green font*

good idea, try to be patient and choose the best situation, do you have any idea on how would he react?

[pocket_pilgrim]

i haven't come out to my parents yet. i can pretty much imagine their response though, and how i should do it.

mom: she is very open-minded, fun and accepting. she even mentioned that "it doesn't matter whether you bring home a joe or joanne as long as you are happy" and [to her friends who were being too nosy about my sexuality and said that i'd better not turn out gay] "leave him alone, he can love whoever he wants! but honey, make sure the guy you choose is a blonde" . on some level, she knows. and she will be next to find out, after my closest friend. how? i have someone in brussels (he is NOT a blonde so she will be so disappointed) and if things work between us, i want to send her a picture of the two of us together and say "meet your son-in law!" :biggrin:

dad: he is not that bad, but much less accepting. i am sure he will, but there will be a shadow on his male ego and his "pride and joy" son. i will probably tell him when i get back home from belgium, and explain to him that i am still the same person and have no intention of "straying on the wrong path"; this is me, not by choice but by chance. and i am happy with it so he has to be too, for i am not about to change. easier said than done, but i hope he will at least accept it, in the end. (no pun intended) however, i do feel like i should prove myself to him, in a sense, so i will be working hard and paying attention to my studies and profesional future as well.

as for you, prophet, best of luck with your dad! whatever you do, make sure you go easy on him. many men have problems with gay people, they feel threatened. looks like at least your mom can accept you and maybe there will be some support from her side as well. then again, things might be a bit better for you because you're a girl - and bisexual. so be strong and take care!

t.

[drocko17]

mom: she is very open-minded, fun and accepting. she even mentioned that "it doesn't matter whether you bring home a joe or joanne as long as you are happy" and [to her friends who were being too nosy about my sexuality and said that i'd better not turn out gay] "leave him alone, he can love whoever he wants! but honey, make sure the guy you choose is a blonde" . on some level, she knows. and she will be next to find out, after my closest friend. how? i have someone in brussels (he is NOT a blonde so she will be so disappointed) and if things work between us, i want to send her a picture of the two of us together and say "meet your son-in law!" :biggrin:

She seems to know pretty much already! xD

[TheProphet]

I don't think he'd be too bothered. my brother is very effeminate and has started taking an interest in makeup and womens clothes and he doesn't seem to care much (in fact it is my mum who is more bothered by it) so I don't think it is a case of him not being accepting more about finding a right time to talk about it

[drocko17]

And apart from that, dads are more tolerant with girls, commonly...

[TheProphet]

well thanks for your help I think I can talk to my parents now just waiting for the moment

and pocket pilgrim good luck with your parents (I wanted to say that earlier but I was at school and the teacher kept walking past and I sort of wasn't supposed to be on here)

[02gordonj]

i havent told my parents yet and i dont know how to. my cousin is gay and my parents seem fine wiv it, but im worried about how they will react to their own son. any ideas (msg me plz)?