Where am i headed?

[marshlander]

Yes, I read those comments, but I still don't see the contradiction. It is still everyone's choice as to where the limits are. We all accept things we may not like in a partner just as we all decide where the lines are to be drawn. We cannot make a partner something they are not. We can only change ourselves. Once the limits have been exceeded and the differences are irreconcilable (ie "if you find it really hard") moving on is an option.

For the record, no one knows more than I how hard it is to make that decision to move on. I took decades to reach that conclusion and endured much during those years.