And feel free not to be shy lol.
I'll go ahead and start.
Which I'm really opening up a lot by posting this on here lol.
First: I want A Man. not a boy, guy, etc.
-Connection: Preferably Strong.
-Friendship
-Ability to be open up, confide, trust me, also be able to trust him. That's right, I want a backstage pass lol.
-A man who will treat me like a queen. Not literally but you know what I mean lol.
-Isn't married to the area that he's living in, for work/travel reasons.
-Is open and comfortable about his sexuality.
-Prefer sweet and honest.
-Someone who isn't afraid of being in an LTR.
-Personality: Tend to have a type, American Man style. kind of hard to describe. Outgoing, but by the same token don't want Mr. Popularity either, don't want to hear the phone ringing or texting 24/7 when we're doing our "spending time" thing together lol. Tend to not be too picky in this area because I can accept you for who you are.
-Prefer A Man who loves to travel.
-And very important: No Alcoholics or heavy drinkers. Prefer drinks occasionally. Drugs, same. I don't do drugs.
-Prefer a Smoker, or one who doesn't mind dating a smoker lol.
Looks: Prefer average. Usually don't go for hot guys. Or Fem type, sorry no offense meant lol.
Sex: From beginner to expert, doesn't matter so long as compatible. Love the "will try almost anything once or twice" attitude lol.
And a Man who Knows how to handle me and can do so Easily.
In return he'll get a great boyfriend, me lol, who's easy to please, has previous experience, knows what he wants & where he's going, etc.
PS: Not looking for a boyfriend right now, just thought it would be a fun topic to start and hopefully hear back from you guys to see what your thoughts/opinions are and what you look for lol.
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Wow... I feel so uhm underclasses with what you have lol
Personality: Someone who's sweet/kind, Someone who can tell me no when I need to be told or anything for that matter, Someone who knows my limitations yet encourages me to go above and beyond, Someone who can be my lover as well as a best friend, and most of all, loyal.
Appearance Wise: Doesn't really matter, but I typically am not very picky. I have a soft spot for a guy in uniform, black hair, and muscle.
Sex: Since I'm a virgin not sure lol (But if I wasn't someone who was adventurous, somewhat emotional in bed (If not in everyday life)).
Relationship Wise: Someone who would want a long-term relationship, not no quickie hookup for like three months.
Overall, a boyfriend could have none of these qualities and I wouldn't really care. If I feel a certain way about him, then even if he was none of these, I would still date him.
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My perfect world consists of ...
A guy you pass by and you cant help but stare into his eyes for that three seconds of heaven.
Then casually running into him again. Having the confidence to start a conversation.
Finding out he is an extremly interesting person. He has a bit of an artisitic side but tonnes of athleticism.
Some one who stands with you through all your crazy times in life no matter how crazy they are.
Who wont go away when you want to be alone because they know that you secretly want them there.
Some one who can look you in the eyes and tell you something honestly. Or absolutly hilarious.
Some one you can cry infront of without feeling ashamed.
Some one who isnt going to leave you for some one else because they might be different in some ways then you. Like age or how much money they make.
definate none drug user. Mild drinker, I dont mind if they smoke but I dont.
healthy eater or some one who can help support some one who has to eat healthy all the time.
some one to keep you on your toes all the time. Always planning sporatic adventures and doing random things.
sleeping in on weekends and watching the rain fall drinking europian coffee.
some one who can talk openly about the things they want in life without making assumptions that it will all happen right now.
last but not least.
Some who I can say i love you to without sending them into a frenzy.
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I will stick to a simple realistic vision,
I want somone who I can lay in his lap while watching a movie and feel perfectly at peace.
I never want him to lie to me about anything, even if its about me since I don't want him to feel obligated to spare my feelings over his.
I want a guy who we can just go for a drive or a walk and talk about anything.
That when we visit family or friends, we are never afraid to be ourselves.
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First and most important: A man who is honest and faithful.
Otherwise:
A man who loves me for how I am, not how I look or what my race is.
A man's man. I don't mind a fem. boy as long as he will stand by my side, be my shoulder when I need. ( I have a strong personality but I am a human so I get turned down too ).
A man who is understanding. I am a complicated person and I have unusual point of view most of the time. I want a man who will respect my view instead of trying to bend it to his. This is a sub requirement for "love me for who I am".
About the look, he should look good enough so I don't want to cheat on him just because other guys are hotter. I have been there, done that so I will not cheat unless I feel like I am deserved a better sex partner.
A man who has good sense of humor or at least get my joke.
A man who has wisdom. This is for him rather than for me. I cannot commit to a person who makes stupid choice in their life and be suffered from that. It 's just hurt me to see them suffering.
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I had mine all worked out many years ago and I was upfront about it right away with anyone I was serious about...I also was upfront about it with guys who were interested in me and I knew they didn't have the compatibility I needed.
If you have insecurity based jealousy keep walking...we are not compatible. Life is short and precious...it is an ugly waste of time for me.
Dont' try to control my mind or employ shame to keep me quiet. I dont' even control my mind. This is non negotiable. I like information and am interested in most everything...I like to think...I like to consider everything possible....I like to talk to most people. I am not compatible with negative know it alls or oppressive types. I love other open minds as well.
Absolutely no Republicans or Conservatives...not my thing. Also....If you don't vote and don't care to understand how important it is I wont respect you at all so there is no chance there.
Driving: If you don't have respect for other people on the road you will not have enough respect for other people in general...including me...not acceptable.
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i looke for simularities and connection, and do we talk well or when we hang out is it all akward silence, without these, as a shy sub, we cannot get off the ground
if we go beyond this i look towards loyalty, cuddliness (i watz to cuddle!), and what is more important to him, sex, or being with me for love.
I find it hard if i cannot cuddle, im very tactile, at the same time im not huge on the whole sex thing, while i enjoy it of course i kind of find it easily boring and that any relationship built too much on sex will destroy itself, and though i'll always give you my trust right away if you cheat on me, because of my shaky past with unfaitfull mates, i kinda get turned off real quick by it.
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I have already found my perfect man MR. PANCAKE.
EAT YOUR HEARTS OUT I FOUND HIM HERE ON THIS SITE THANK YOU ANDY
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First and foremost, I need a man who isn't ashamed of being gay. I've made the mistake of dating a guy who was in the closet to family and straight friends. It was annoying and sad. He's Latino and whenever I'd get bitchy about it, he'd yell, "You can't be gay in my culture!" He also drank too much and messed with coke. I broke things off after a couple months. He called my phone like crazy for a while, but the calls eventually stopped. I hope he'll find the strength to be open and honest one day.
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XRIMO Wrote:I will stick to a simple realistic vision,
I want somone who I can lay in his lap while watching a movie and feel perfectly at peace.
I never want him to lie to me about anything, even if its about me since I don't want him to feel obligated to spare my feelings over his.
I want a guy who we can just go for a drive or a walk and talk about anything.
That when we visit family or friends, we are never afraid to be ourselves.
Simple and effective... Hope you find that man some day, sweetie... You deserve it. :tongue: 
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Topic: What do you look for when Looking for a boyfriend?
