Really want it, but really scared of it.

[JJLive]

Ok, so this is my first thread on GaySpeak. Please correct me if either i've posted in the wrong section or i'm being too graphic.. lol

I'm 20 years old, been single for 2 months after splitting with my boyfriend of 3 years, and i've just met someone new. We've been seeing each other for 2 weeks, and he's an active top. We've had sex 3 times, the first and second time he took control and bottomed for me, as i explained i have only been bottom once and i didnt really enjoy it. However, after the third time, he explained that he really doesnt like being bottom and would prefer it if i tried. Now, I lack confidence in the bedroom, i'll be the first to admit it. I dont have the confidence to be top during sex.

I would really like to be a bottom, because the one time i tried it, i actually really enjoyed it, and would have a hell of a lot more if the guys knob wasnt bent in such an awkward position that it hurt every time i tried any position except for me on my back. However.. I've got a few issues.. the first being i big myself up for it, when i know i want to try to do it, and i think i actually make myself feel physically sick because i get so nervous.. It drives me insane. Also, the root cause of all of this is that i'm nervous it's going to be dirty once the guy's pulled out. Im a complete and utter clean freak, and the idea of this happening would absolutely mortify me. I dont think id know what to do with myself??

Am i a complete headcase? or can someone empathise with me?

J x

[simon]

try watchinbg some straight porn,those women take some anal beating and even put it in their month after,it looks clean to me but thats not for me,just start keeping an eye on your toilet habits,when you go etc don't let it worry you too much as the chances are slim, it would hardly be that big of a deal but don't be the bottom unless that is something you want,there are many more ways to have sex,also have a play around yourself with a dido and learn have your body works.

[borrein]

The trick to this is actually use the restroom and possibly get an enema if you're that worried about it being "Dirty" when pulled out. This will clean you out rather well so that you don't have to worry about it so much.

^_^ Also have him go slow to loosen you up before he tries to penetrate you, otherwise it can hurt and it's going to hurt. Use plenty of lube, loosen you up (preferably with his fingers) and then slowly rock himself into your rear.

Hope that information helps you any.

[The Virgin]

hi there and welcome to Gayspeak... i hate being bottom simply because of the pain but a lot of my flexible friends who like taking it up the ass says that you should drink a plenty amount of water to clean your rectum.... and avoid eating too much meat days before you wanna receive anal sex....

[JJLive]

I heard about the meat thing, a few people i've spoken to already have said i should cut out meat, although i do eat quite a lot of red meat because of the gym etc.

I know it hurts to be bottom, but i can get over the pain. Im going to see him tomorrow night, so will have to try it then. I brought a set of butt plugs from the clonezone, so am going to try those too to loosen myself up. I know i like being bottom because ive done it before, and its never been dirty before either, so i dont know what my problem is. lmao!

Thanks guys x

[The Virgin]

just tell us of any update after it ok? and oh by the way, drink pinapple juice...they say it's a big help for anal sex....

[simon]

so have you got that....no meat and pineapple juice but no prunes

[The Virgin]

and lots and lots of water, don't forget....