Is he Gay indeed or have i been daydreaming?

[Ioankar]

First of all, I daresay that I'm a 15 yo GAY boy and proud of it.
But what i have to make clear, is that i daresay that in this site but not in real life. I live in Greece, where gay people are perceived as something sick. This is also the opinion of many friends of mine who are undoubtedly straight. That's why i pretend to be one ,too, with success till now.
The truth is that i have a crush with my best friend, something i'll never tell him and that's what's killing me. Although he seems to be so straight (he has thousands female fans), something tells me that he might be gay; he might be one of "my kind" and i might have chances.
My clues: he seems to try too hard to impress girls and his friends about his "conquests". Moreover, when he enters in porn sites in internet cafes (don't judge him doing so or me allowing him doing so) he says "Gay porn? Lets watch some to laugh". Last but not least, although I'm not a psychologist, i think that he has a weird attitude toward his classmates: he has not problem hugging, kissing, touching, lifting girls off the ground (to show off) but feels uncomfortable when a guy touches him or puts his hand around his shoulders (not sexually, in fact it's something normal among straights in my country). According to my opinion, that's a gay reaction opposite to the straight-guy's one, who turns red when the girl that he likes touches him or who has no problem being close to his buddies. I personally feel nothing when touched by girls, since i don't consider them as sex material but get shy, when my friend that i would love to kiss, sits by my side.
Unfortunately i don't have the "gay-radar" and that's why i'm not sure if i ever dare go out and look for a boyfriend. Do you think that my friend is gay indeed or i've been daydreaming? :confused:

[marshlander]

No idea, sorry. I am sad that you cannot be honest about yourself with your friends. This evening I watched a devastating documentary about a dj on BBC radio who went to Uganda to find out what life was really like for gay people there. I am very grateful that I live in England or France.

Part of me feels that nothing will change for you until gay people in your country are able to stand up and be counted, but I realise the weight of family, social and religious pressure that makes that very difficult. Keep hold of his friendship and maybe your dreams might work out.

Best wishes.

[simon]

only you know you friend so it would be next to impossible for anyone of us to tell you,if you want to meet someone then I would first get to a place in your life where you feel safe,then if you should get it wrong and hit on a guy that is not gay you will not be frightened if it gets out you are gay.

[ManicGlow]

Don't get your hopes up. He may be gay but there is no way to tell for now. In my experience, little signs that lead you into believing a guy you are attracted to could be gay are usually the result of wishful thinking altering your perception... If you trust him enough you could tell him that you are gay and if he is too maybe he would say something.
Honestly, though, I wouldn't do that myself. I am not that bold. Took me forever to tell my best friend and he has a gay dad so he was already somewhat accepting of gays..
Don't wanna be a downer but for me things never seem to work out that well. Who knows, you might be luckier than I am. But i f it were me I would give it some time and just see how things go.

[cry0s]

You never know man but I definitely understand the difficulty found in that type of situation. As much as it sucks, you will eventually find others who share these types of commonalities with you. Sometimes it seems like an eternity, but it'll happen.

[fredv3b]

I think it is possible that you are right about your friend. However if he is gay he is deeply in denial about it.

My suggestion is that you allow your crush to fade, and go find some gay or, at least, gay-friendly friends.

Whereabouts in Greece do you live, are you far from a major town/city?

[Pseudo Rob]

I'd say that the most likely situation is that you want him to be gay so much that you're finding clues in the tiniest of things. Also, even if he is gay, it doesnt sound like hes willing to admit it to anyone.

[TheLovebird]

The most important thing in this case you should know is that not everyone wants to come out. And if he doesn't want to let anyone know, u should respect this. Let time tell u (if u are lucky, something will tell u by accident or your gay-radar might be stronger in someday)

[SlipknotRlZZ]

I think he might be very gay indeed. lol But you have no way of knowing, dude, unless you talk to him about it...and you were saying that things will get worse if you do, right?