Okay so here's the deal. My partner likes a few things. He likes me to be aggressive. Not aggressive as in the way that would get someone arrested, but he likes me to lead and boss him around in the bedroom. He also likes when I talk dirty. I've never been asked to talk dirty before, and I don't normally cuss in daily conversation, so I feel odd doing it in bed. Also, he likes variety. Toys are out of the question for now, including all the kinky black leather bondagy stuff. So my question is, does anyone have any concrete suggestions on what I can do to be more aggressive, talk dirty, and make variety?
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You can do a lot of different things .... maybe buy him a dog collar and a leash if he wants to be dominated by you .... I´m sure that can be the right way FOR HIM .. but ... whats with you... it seems that you are not really happy with the situation if you need help to be stronger as you want to be, maybe you both need more to talk and not to play ;-)
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Yeah with the toys etc talk about it and set out what your willing to do and more importantly what you aren't, as for the dirty talk just fake it and go way over the top like i do.
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Even if I could do it, I don't think I would be able to keep from laughing. I would immediately think of every appalling porn script I've ever seen played out. I can just imagine PA and me, completely helpless from laughter ... ooops, sorry - that's not much help is it :redface:
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I'm satisfied with our sex. It's quite fun and is literally the best I've ever had. I know he's satisfied too. It's just I'm trying to plan ahead and maybe have a bag of tricks (lol) for the future.
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seen a guy led by a lead wearong a dog collar at a festival...he loved it as far as i could see...they were straight and she gave him water from a bowl --- if that your thing then go for it,,,,not for me to judge,,,,,,,,,,,,play safe but do what u want m8
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Cool, thanks for the ideas. Also, talking dirty is kind of weird for me. What are some things I could say? Like specific phrases? It's hard to not sound cheesy. I can pull off the attitude when it's called for, I just can't think of what to say.
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Help! Being aggressive, talking dirty, adding variety
